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ABBY:
Trauma is real. I didn’t realise it back then, but every lie, every manipulation, every act of abuse stacked up like bricks, building the person I became. The worst part? I had no idea it was affecting me in ways I couldn’t even begin to imagine. I thought it was normal.

When Aunty asked me what kind of woman I wanted to be, my first instinctive answer was: “The kind that can get anything she wants.”

At the time, I didn’t even understand what I meant. But now I do.

Before I was even a teenager, I learnt that covering up for people gave me power. They’d mess up, and I’d protect their secrets—only to use those secrets to get what I wanted. It felt clever. Like I had an ace up my sleeve. But what I really became… was a manipulator. A blackmailer. And it only got worse with age.

One of those moments was what Aunty referred to when she said I ruined her life. Back then, I thought she was being dramatic—delusional, even. But looking back now, I get it. If Aunty had known I wouldn’t cover for her, maybe she would’ve made a different choice.

I know she was a grown woman, and her actions were hers alone—but my little games, my conniving ways, they didn’t just cost me Olumide the doctor…

They cost me something even bigger.

Mr 16.

He came home one summer. By then, he’d been away at school for three years, in his final year, and planning to apply to university in America. He was different—quieter, more withdrawn, not the boisterous boy I remembered.

When I asked him if he was okay, he just smiled and said he was fine. But one evening, I heard him crying. I peeked into his room and saw him scribbling furiously in a diary. I made a note of where he kept it. Later, while he was downstairs having dinner, I snuck in and read it.

That’s when I found out his secret.

By then I was 15—queen of lies and blackmail. I can’t even count how many times I threatened friends just to get what I wanted. Their feelings didn’t matter. It was about control.

That evening, when Mr 16 came back into his room, I sat on his bed and told him to give me the new phone his parents had sent from America—or I’d tell everyone what I’d read.

He looked at me—shocked, confused, like he didn’t even know who I was. “Get lost,” he said.

So I did. But later, I sent him a text with the secret written out.

The next morning, he wasn’t in his room.

He left a note. It said he couldn’t take it anymore. That his secret was out. And no one should look for him.

My heart stopped.

I was terrified. I couldn’t tell anyone what I’d done.

A full-scale search began. The police got involved. I was frozen with fear.

Three days later, they found him in hospital. He’d tried to run into traffic. A car hit him, but he survived—with a broken leg and fractured ribs.

When they asked him why he did it, he simply pointed at me.

Needless to say, Uncle packed my things that same day and kicked me out.

And that’s how I ended up with Madam J.

Hmmm…


CHRIS:
Felix’s story about the prophet shook me. Something in the way he spoke, so sure, so settled in his destiny—it convinced me. So I told ED I’d go.

We travelled to the prophet’s village. When we arrived, there were already people waiting. It was clearly a popular place. After about an hour, it was our turn to go in.

The prophet sat in a faded blue armchair, a fan gently blowing on him. A bottle of water sat on a stool beside him.

As we walked in, he didn’t look at us. Just said, “Welcome. Please sit. Don’t tell me why you’re here.”

He asked me to stretch out my hands. I did.

He took one in his own and ran his fingers over my palm slowly. Up and down. Then he said, “Chris. That’s your name, right?”

I nodded.

“You were born to be great,” he said. “Everything you’ve experienced so far has been preparation for a destiny that is vast and significant. Your path is across waters. You will thrive, and make it big—over there.”

After he finished, I asked, “Sir… which waters? Is it the UK? America? Europe? Where exactly?”

He smiled gently. “God didn’t show me that. God bless you.”

Then it was ED’s turn. The prophet read his palm and said his destiny was to work in an office. If he stayed dedicated and patient, he’d rise to the top—eventually run the company.

Afterwards, we sat on a culvert near the prophet’s house. I was quiet for a long time. Then I finally said, “Why? Why does God hate me so much that He placed my destiny across water? I can’t swim. I hate water. I lost my best friend to water. Why would He do that?”

ED looked at me with a sad sort of sympathy. “I’m sorry, bro. But that’s your path. At least now you know.”

I stared into the distance for a while.

Then I said, “Well… that’s that. I need to start looking for money. I have to get a visa to go abroad.”

But that, my friend, is another story.

Hmmm…

Entry 16

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ENTRY 16

ABBY:
As Aunty ended the call, not even giving me a chance to ask any questions, my boyfriend turned to me with a worried look on his face.

“Abby, honey… what was that about?”

I looked into his inquisitive eyes and tried to bluff. “Nothing,” I said, waving it off casually.

But he wasn’t buying it.

“What do you mean ‘nothing’? She just called you a liar and said you ruined her life. Abby, tell me what she meant.”

His voice was getting louder—agitated—and I knew if I didn’t give him something, he wouldn’t stop. So, I gave him a watered-down version. But even that didn’t convince him.

“Abby,” he said sharply, “we’ve been together for two years, and one thing I know is when you’re not telling me the truth. So, tell me now, or we end this relationship—right now.”

Needless to say, I didn’t tell him the truth. And just like that, it ended.

He stood up, walked out of the departure lounge where we’d been waiting to board, and left me sitting there—alone. I ended up going on that birthday trip to Egypt by myself.

When I returned, he had blocked my number, unfollowed me, and deleted all our pictures from his social media. Just like that. Gone.

The lies I told eleven years ago had come back to ruin my present.

Olumide wasn’t just any man. He was a doctor. He’d just secured a job in Dubai and was planning to relocate—with me.

Later, I found out from his sister that he was going to propose to me in Egypt. He had bought a ring and everything.

Choices. Every choice we make comes with consequences. And I was about to learn that in ways I couldn’t imagine.

Well, let me tell you how it all unfolded…

Hmmm…


CHRIS:
ED took me to meet Felix—the owner of Trust God Transports. He was young, early thirties, and surprisingly humble for someone so successful.

He welcomed us warmly and offered snacks. I declined—I was there for destiny, not biscuits. ED accepted though, as usual.

Felix leaned forward and said, “Guys, this prophet—he’s the real deal. I heard about him from my uncle. The prophet told him who he’d marry, how many children he’d have, even what those children would do when they grew up. And everything happened just like he said.”

He paused, then added, “The prophet’s blind, but it’s like he sees with an inner eye.”

I raised an eyebrow but listened on.

“When I went to see him,” Felix continued, “he held my hand for a few minutes, looked up and said, ‘Son, your destiny is on the road. You will thrive if you stay on that path. Don’t deviate. Keep moving back and forth—and you’ll be wealthy.’”

“That’s all he said?” I asked.

Felix nodded. “Yeah. At the time, I was a frustrated bus driver earning peanuts. I was so close to quitting. I’d even started looking into online business—which, let’s be honest, mostly meant fraud these days.”

He chuckled, then continued.

“But the way he said ‘the road’, I knew he meant transport. So I went to a cooperative and used my father’s land as collateral to get a small loan. I bought an old, rundown van, fixed it up gradually, and within a year, I started my own road transport business—moving between nearby towns.”

He leaned back proudly.

“Then I bought another van… and another. I started running longer routes. Now I have ten luxury buses and twenty-five smaller ones that go between Lagos and Ibadan every day.”

He smiled. “The road really was my destiny.”

Hmmm…

Entry 15

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ENTRY 15

ABBY:
Before I get to what happened eleven years later, I remember a moment from just a week after the sit-down with both sets of parents—shortly after the baby’s christening. Uncle had changed. He still did his duty as a father, but there was something distant about him, like a man going through the motions, carrying a weight only he could feel.

One afternoon, Aunty called me into her room. She was sitting at her dressing table, staring into the mirror like she was searching for something lost.

“Abby,” she said slowly, “do you ever think about what kind of woman you want to be?”

I froze. That wasn’t the kind of question she usually asked. Normally, it was something like ‘Have you swept the parlour?’ or ‘Why is there no salt in the stew?’ But this—this was different.

I nodded and replied, “Yes, I think about it a lot.”

She sighed and turned to me. “I never wanted to be this woman. The kind who hides. The kind who lies. But life…” she trailed off, then added softly, “You have a chance to be better than me, Abby. Don’t waste it.”

I didn’t know what to say. Part of me wanted to ask why she was telling me this now. But another part of me—the part still just a girl pretending to be grown—wanted to hug her. I didn’t. I just stood there, quietly.

But maybe I should have thought about it more, because eleven years later, it all came back.

I remember the day clearly—it was unforgettable. I was about to turn 24 the next day. My boyfriend at the time was sitting next to me at the airport. We were flying to Egypt for a birthday weekend getaway when her call came through.

I was excited. I thought maybe she wanted to wish me a happy birthday—we hadn’t spoken in a while. I smiled, put the phone on speaker and said, “Hello, Aunty!”

But her voice was cold, and her words hit me like ice.

“Abby,” she said, “you destroyed my life. Why didn’t you just tell the truth that day?”

I blinked, confused.

“Uncle just won the American lottery. And on the immigration form, he wrote that he had three biological children. The questions were specific—they asked if any of them were stepchildren. He said no.”

She paused. Her breathing got heavier.

“DNA tests were done. The truth came out. We all got our visas. But Steven has been denied.”

My heart sank.

“Abby, why? You ruined my life…”

Hmmm…


CHRIS:
Edward was the older brother of my childhood friend—the one who drowned. I told you about him back in Entry 1. Edward and I stayed close, and over the years, we became best friends. He always had my back.

Just before our university graduation, Edward said something to me that I’ll never forget.

“Chris, you know we’ve always said we won’t just be rich—we’ll be very wealthy. I’ve found something that will guide us.”

I looked at him, puzzled. “What do you mean?”

“There’s this prophet,” he replied. “He’s blind. He holds your hand, reads your palm, and tells you exactly what your destiny is. No guesswork. Just clarity.”

Before he could finish, I interrupted, “Edward, you’ve come again with one of your made-up stories. Who but God can see our destinies?”

Ed just laughed. “Bro, forget that. This prophet’s helped loads of people. I’m not saying he’ll make us rich, but his guidance will help us find our path—no more wasting time chasing shadows. What harm could it do?”

That night, lying in bed, I couldn’t stop thinking. Maybe Ed had a point. People spend years trying their hand at everything and still never find the thing meant for them. What if there really was a way to know?

Still, I wanted proof.

Ed said he’d introduce me to someone the prophet had read for—someone who followed the path and, barely six years later, was now rich beyond belief.

Hmmm…

Entry 14

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Entry 14

ABBY:

Uncle looked menacing as he asked me to come and stand next to him. No one knew what he was about to say. Then he looked at both sets of parents and said:

“Mamas and Papas, I have held my peace and waited for this day to come. But before I say what I want to say, I will ask my wife a question. My wife, is there anything you want to tell me?”

Aunty looked around and replied,

“Yes, my husband. You have neglected your duties as a father just because you said you didn’t want another child. You haven’t carried your child or rejoiced at his birth. I’m glad our parents are here and can get involved.”

Both sets of parents looked shocked.

Then Uncle replied sarcastically,

“Is that all? Well, today we speak the truth. Abby, I want you to answer me truthfully. I know you won’t lie to me—remember, I brought you back from the village, I pay for the new school you’re in, and I buy you what you want. You’re a good girl. But now I will tell you why I brought you back and why your aunty sent you away. So answer.”

“I had my suspicions that your aunty was up to something—and you know what it is. I asked her why she sent you back and she said you were wayward, that she didn’t want you putting her in trouble. But I didn’t believe her. I suspect it has something to do with why she’s been coming home late from her shop most weekends.

So, Abby, tell me the truth and shame the devil. I can read you, and I know you won’t lie to me. Your parents are here and they know when you’re lying.

So everyone’s eyes are on you…

Has your aunty been having something with another man in her shop?”

Ahhh! All the parents shouted at once.

My aunty froze. Uncle looked towards me. Everyone was waiting for me to say something.

Let’s pause here for a moment.

Two things were wrong.

One, my parents knew me—as in, past tense. I was no longer the ten-year-old naïve girl who left the village.

And two, Aunty knew I was a liar. That might explain the calm look on her face as she smiled, nodded, and winked at me.

My dad also looked fidgety—I’m sure he was thinking, Abby’s not that innocent.

Anyway, considering all this—and the fact that lies and blackmail had already gotten me this far—I cleared my throat, looked Uncle in the eye, and replied:

“Uncle, thank you for trusting me. I haven’t seen Aunty with any man. The only person who comes to delay her at the shop is one aunty like this, who’s always reporting her husband to Aunty. They spend a lot of time talking about it until it’s really late. That’s all I know, Uncle.”

And I watched Uncle’s head slump.
Aunty’s teeth came out.
My father shook his head.
My mum smiled.

Each reaction meant different things: disappointment, elation, sadness, and joy.

Now all I could think of was—what do I want Aunty to do for me next?

But 11 years later, when the truth came out, I was no longer that naïve girl everyone believed I was. That’s when I remembered the question aunty asked me a week after that incident with the parents, “ Abby what kind of woman do you want to be?”

Hmmm…


CHRIS:

I froze, listening as Bisi cried and said:

“Mum, Dad—okay, okay! I’ll tell the truth. Chris is not the father. In fact, I’m not even pregnant! I just lied so that you would give me my inheritance. I need more money than you give me!”

Oh my Lord.

Bisi lied and put me through all that just because she wanted money?

Unbelievable.

That’s when her parents replied,

“Ahh, I’m glad you came to your senses.”

Her mother continued,

“I knew you wouldn’t bring a boy like Chris to us saying he’s the father of your child. You’re too selfish to get with a poor boy. We knew he was just a pawn in your next scheme.”

Then her father looked at me and said,

“Young man, we apologise for our daughter. You’re not the first boy she’s brought home with a cockamamie story—but you are the first poor boy. So, to compensate you, here is some money, We apologise on her behalf.”

I froze—confused and couldn’t believe what I was hearing.

I don’t know who was the better actor—her parents or Bisi.

So they knew she was lying and played along?

I could’ve sworn they were serious.

Anyway, I sat there with the brown envelope, still thinking, until Bisi yelled at me:

“Chris, get your dirty arse off our couch. You’re done. Please leave. You’re of no use to me now.”

I stood up, feeling so ashamed that I had allowed myself to be used and paid off like the poor boy I was.

I said thank you to her parents and even apologised to Bisi—as she yelled and waved me out.

That day, as I walked to the main road to get a bus back to the university, I vowed to become very wealthy, no matter what it took.

Two years later, after graduating with a first-class degree in Economics, when Edward suggested we go see a prophet to tell us our destiny—

I jumped at it.

Hmmm…

Life as a Single Person: Challenges and Solutions

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Life as a single person today is both liberating and challenging. While society has evolved to embrace diverse lifestyles, the world is still largely designed for couples and families. From social expectations to financial hurdles, being single can sometimes feel like an uphill climb. However, it is also an opportunity for growth, independence, and fulfilment. Here’s how to navigate life as a single person with confidence and joy.

Challenges Faced by Single People Today

1. Social Pressure and Stigma

Despite progress, there remains an unspoken expectation to settle down. Friends and family often ask, “When will you find someone?” as if being single is a temporary state rather than a valid life choice. This pressure can sometimes lead to self-doubt or the feeling that something is missing.

2. Loneliness and Isolation

Being single can mean spending a lot of time alone, and while solitude can be empowering, it can also be lonely. Many social activities cater to couples, making it harder to feel included. Even in a digital age, where connections are easier to make, true companionship can still feel out of reach.

3. Financial Independence

Living alone often means managing finances single-handedly. Rent, bills, and holidays can be more expensive without a partner to split costs. This financial responsibility can sometimes feel overwhelming, especially in an economy that favours shared expenses.

4. Navigating Dating and Relationships

Modern dating is a maze of swipes, ghosting, and mixed signals. With so many options, paradoxically, it can feel harder than ever to form meaningful connections. The pressure to find ‘the one’ can be exhausting, and rejection can take an emotional toll.

How to Embrace and Thrive as a Single Person

1. Reframe Your Mindset

Being single is not a waiting period—it’s a chapter of your life that deserves to be celebrated. Use this time to invest in yourself, explore new interests, and build the life you want without compromise.

2. Build Strong Social Connections

Friendships are just as valuable as romantic relationships. Nurture deep connections with friends, join social groups, and engage in communities where you feel seen and appreciated. Surrounding yourself with positive, like-minded people will enrich your life.

3. Enjoy Your Independence

One of the biggest perks of being single is having complete control over your time and decisions. Travel solo, take up a new hobby, or move to a city you’ve always dreamed of living in. Embrace the freedom that comes with not having to factor in another person’s needs.

4. Prioritise Self-Care and Growth

Being single is an opportunity to focus on self-improvement. Set personal goals, invest in your mental and physical well-being, and create a lifestyle that brings you happiness. Whether it’s therapy, fitness, or learning a new skill, personal growth will boost your confidence and fulfilment.

5. Take Charge of Your Finances

Financial independence is empowering. Create a budget, invest wisely, and build a financial cushion for yourself. Instead of seeing single living as a financial disadvantage, view it as an opportunity to have full control over your money and future.

6. Redefine Love and Connection

Love isn’t just romantic—it’s found in friendships, family, and self-care. Seek joy in different types of connections and recognise that love exists in many forms. Being single doesn’t mean being alone; it means defining relationships on your own terms.

Final Thoughts

Being single today comes with its challenges, but it’s also a chance to shape your life exactly as you want it. Rather than focusing on what’s missing, embrace what’s possible. Whether you stay single or eventually find a partner, what matters most is that you create a fulfilling, joyful life on your own terms.

So, own your journey, love yourself, and make the most of this chapter. Your happiness isn’t waiting for someone else—it starts with you.

Abby and Chris’ Diary-A Life Unfiltered

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Entry 13

ABBY:

Months went by. I got registered in my cousin’s school, Aunty didn’t quit her business, and Uncle wasn’t as happy as he used to be.

Then one Saturday evening, Uncle got a call from Mr 16’s school. Bear in mind, up until this point, there hadn’t been any issues. The head teacher wanted to see him.

When Uncle returned, he came back with Mr 16.

What happened?

Well, Mr 16 and his friends had been playing football behind the classrooms—something that was strictly forbidden, especially during the mandatory siesta time. Unfortunately, they kicked the ball too hard, and it shattered several louvre windows in one of the classrooms.

One of the teachers rushed over from the staff room. All of Mr 16’s friends ran—but he didn’t.

He was marched to the staff room, asked to kneel, and just as they were about to flog him, he held the cane and said, “Do you know who my parents are? I’ve got my Amex card here—tell me how much, and I’ll transfer the money. You can’t hit me with that rusty, cheap piece of garbage.”

Okay, now that was new.

The teachers didn’t know what to do with him. So, they suspended him—for a whole semester.

And that, ironically, was the exact day Aunty decided to go into labour.

I went with her in a taxi because Uncle had already gone to Mr 16’s school. She had a baby boy, and throughout her two-day stay at the hospital, Uncle didn’t show up once.

Anyway, we returned home with the baby—again, in a taxi—and as soon as Aunty walked in, she started yelling at Uncle for not caring.

He didn’t say a word. He just walked away into the bedroom, leaving all of us standing there, perplexed.

The next day, I heard a knock at the door. I opened it—and there were my parents. Right after them came his parents. I thought, Yes, they must have heard Aunty had a baby. Which, of course, was true.

That evening, Uncle returned from work and greeted everyone. Then he turned to me and said,

“Abby, please stand up. Today is the day I tell you why I came back to the village to get you when your Aunty sent you back…”

Hmmm…


CHRIS:

When people say, “I wish the ground would open up and swallow me,” I never understood—until that day Bisi took me to meet her father.

She’d poured bottled water on me to wake me up. I was still confused, still scared—but she was determined.

We drove into a compound so large that we were still driving for a full minute before we reached the front of the house.

She had to drag me out of the car and pull me along as we went inside.

Her parents were already waiting.

As I stepped in, to my utter surprise, her father stood up and walked towards me. I flinched, thinking a punch was coming—but instead, he pulled me into a hug and said:

“Our dear son-in-law, you are welcome! Bisi has told us so much about you.”

Her mum came forward too and ushered me into a seat beside her. “Come, my son, sit. Don’t be shy—after all, you put that bundle of joy in our daughter.”

Now, you must understand—I couldn’t tell where the sarcasm ended and the real stuff began.

They had these surreal, too-wide smiles plastered on their faces as they began to interrogate me.

Before I knew it, the father said,

“Son, you’re family now. So I think it’s time you owned up to your responsibility. Get a job, a house, and the money to take care of Bisi. We can’t be feeding Bisi and your child now, can we?”

And then Bisi frowned and replied,

“Come on, Dad, what are you saying?”

Her mum laughed and said,

“Bisi, you keep telling us you’re an adult who can make her own decisions. Well, you’ve made one—and now you’ll have to lie in it. We can’t be responsible for someone else’s child, now can we? You and your husband-to-be need to find a place, work, and start your own family. That’s what your father and I had to do before we made it this big. There’s something called tough love. You can’t pick and choose when to be an adult—you’re either a child or an adult, and you’ve decided on the latter. So all the best.”

And that’s when Bisi started yelling and crying. She said a lot—I didn’t catch it all—but the bit I did catch……

Hmmm…

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Secret Admirer -Part 2

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Fatima couldn’t stop thinking about her secret admirer. The mystery, the attention, the gifts—it was intoxicating. She had always been the type to enjoy the chase, the thrill of being wanted. But this? This was next-level obsession.

“Who do you think it is?” she asked her friends as they sat around sipping iced lattes.

“I don’t know, but girl, whoever it is, he’s loaded,” her friend Tayo said, scrolling through Fatima’s wish list. “That bag was, what? Five hundred dollars?”

“Six-fifty,” Fatima corrected, grinning. “And that’s why I have to find him. A man who spoils you like this? That’s the dream.”

Her other friend, Sade, raised an eyebrow. “But what if he’s not your type? What if he’s…ugly?”

Fatima scoffed. “If he can afford my wishlist, he can afford a glow-up.” They all laughed, but beneath it, Fatima was serious. If this man adored her enough to buy her all these things, she could work with that.

Meanwhile, Tunji was on the verge of making the biggest financial mistake of his life. He had spent nearly all his savings on Fatima’s first gift, and now he was desperate to send the next one. A sleek, imported weave she had posted about—three hundred dollars. He didn’t have it, but he had something else: his car.

“That’s insane,” Kunle, his best friend, said when Tunji mentioned selling it. “You’re telling me you want to sell your car—your only means of transport—to buy hair for a woman who doesn’t even know you exist?”

“She does know me,” Tunji argued. “She just doesn’t know I’m her secret admirer yet.”

Kunle stared at him like he’d lost his mind. “Tunji, listen to me. Fatima is not wife material. She’s a heartbreak girl.”

“What does that even mean?” Tunji snapped, frustrated.

Kunle sighed, rubbing his temples. “It means she dates guys, takes what she wants, and then leaves them dry. She’s done it before, man. And she will do it again.”

“You’re just jealous.” Tunji’s voice was thick with emotion. “You don’t want me to be happy. I’ve finally found love, and you can’t stand it.”

Kunle exhaled sharply, fighting the urge to shake some sense into his friend. “Love? Love?! You think buying her things is love? She loves the gifts, not you.”

“You don’t know that.”

“I do. And deep down, so do you.”

Tunji clenched his fists, his heart pounding. “Do you know anyone who can buy my car? For cheap?”

Kunle lost it. With a sharp motion, he slapped Tunji across the face. Hard.

“Wake up!” Kunle yelled. “You are ruining yourself over a woman who wouldn’t even spare you a second glance if she knew you were the one behind the gifts.”

Tunji’s face burned—not just from the slap but from the rage boiling inside him. “You’ll regret this,” he said, voice shaking. “When Fatima and I are together, when she loves me the way I love her, you’ll regret every word.”

Kunle shook his head in defeat. “I already regret watching you do this to yourself.”

Tunji stormed out. He needed money, and he needed it fast. If he couldn’t sell his car, there had to be another way.

He sat in his room that night, scrolling through loan apps, payday advances, even considering selling his phone. Anything to get that three hundred dollars.

Because once he bought the next gift, Fatima would have no choice but to fall in love with him.

Wouldn’t she?

Part 3 next week.

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Abby & Chris’ Diary-A life unfiltered

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Entry 12

Abby:

You know how there are some conversations you wish you had heard and others you wish you hadn’t? Well, this was one of the latter.

I was coming in from the garden, where I had gone to dry some clothes, when I overheard Aunty in the dining room saying, “My dear, I don’t know what to do. I’m not sure who it belongs to.”

Now, that sentence on its own didn’t mean much. But then, a few days later, I heard Aunty and Uncle arguing—yelling, actually.

“Look, I told you I only wanted two. I thought we had an agreement!” Uncle shouted.

Aunty’s voice responded sharply, “So what do you want me to do? It takes two to tango!”

“Why didn’t you protect yourself?” Uncle fired back.

Aunty snapped, “And why didn’t you?”

And so it went on, back and forth, until Uncle finally stormed out, yelling, “Do whatever you like! I just know I don’t want another child. And since you insist, you’ll have to stop that shop of yours and get a proper job. The money you make there isn’t going to sustain a family of five—let alone any more additions.”

Wow.

I know you might think I was too young to understand, but come on, I was thirteen—going on twenty-one. The things I saw, the secrets I had to keep, and the skills I learned to milk them aged me twice as fast as I should have.

So, I sat down and thought about it. Not sure who it belongs to? I don’t want another baby? It was clear—Aunty was pregnant. But did that mean she didn’t know who the father was?

Well, I got my answer when I overheard yet another argument—this time coming from Aunty’s office. That was odd because, usually, when you pressed your ear against her door, all you heard were giggles and… well, other noises.

But this time, I got there late. And all I heard was:

“You can’t give what’s mine to someone else! I won’t take it!”

Hmmm…


Chris:

Trouble sits peacefully, and then you go and disturb it.

I’m not sure if this applies to what happened to me a few months after Bisi came into my life—or rather, after Bisi met me. But one day, she came to me and said:

“Chris, I need you to come meet my parents. I’m pregnant.”

Pregnant?

“Congratulations,” I said innocently. “Who’s the father?”

She smiled and replied, “You.”

Absolutely no way.

I might be stupid. I might be a village boy. And sure, I had never done it before I met Bisi. But no matter how clumsy I was, I knew that what we were doing—and I mean literally—could not have resulted in a pregnancy.

I mean, she never even took off her underwear. She made me take off mine, but every time, I had to get tissue to… relieve myself in the end. And I told her as much.

That’s when she got upset.

“Hey, boy, listen to me. I say it’s yours, so it’s yours! Do you even know how a woman gets pregnant? I was your first, and I know more than you. Sometimes, it slips through the underwear and gets into the womb. Remember that time you did it on my pants?”

At that point, I was shivering. Could that be true?

She even said that kissing her helped to speed up the process.

Now, let’s pause here.

I know you must be laughing your head off, calling me a dummy—or worse. But the truth is, before I met Bisi, I had never kissed a girl. Not even hugged one. So what did you expect?

Anyway, shaking and shivering, I let her drag me into her car. By then, I was crying—thinking of all the things I hadn’t done with my life.

She was good.

“You’re going to be a father now,” she said, stroking my hair. “So man up. When you meet my parents, they’ll ask for your intentions. Just tell them you’ll take care of me and the baby.”

That was the last thing I heard before I passed out.

Hmmm…

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Abby:

Back to Lagos.

Oh my gosh, I was elated as I jumped into the car.

“Where are your bags?” Uncle asked, laughing.

“Oh, sorry, Uncle! I’ll be right back—don’t go anywhere!” I shouted, dashing back into the house.

When I came out again, my dad and Uncle were still laughing, but my mum…

She wasn’t.

Her face was solemn, and before I could get into the car, she pulled me aside.

“Abby, are we so bad that you can’t wait to leave us?” she asked, her voice tight with emotion. “I love you and miss you. Why don’t you tell your dad and uncle that you want to stay with me?”

Oh, dear Lord.

The anguish in her eyes hit me hard. My heart was screaming, Okay, Mum, I’ll stay! But my head? My head was reminding me of the life waiting for me in Lagos—the soft bed, the nice food, the fancy school, the beautiful clothes… everything.

Love for Mum or not, who in their right mind would choose to stay in the village?

So I looked straight at her and said, “Mum, come on, don’t cry. Your prayers have been answered.”

She frowned. “What prayers?”

“Every night, when we pray, you ask God to make my life better than yours. You always say I should never suffer like you, never be poor like you. Now, God has answered your prayers by letting me leave this village and go to Lagos. So why are you trying to undo God’s blessing?”

I didn’t realise the weight of my words until I saw the tears spill down her cheeks. She turned and ran back into the house, leaving me standing there.

It wasn’t until years later—actually, not so long ago—when I sat down to write this diary that I finally understood what she must have felt that day.

The shame of my childish words still lingers, especially because I never got the chance to apologise.

She passed away before I could.

But we’ll get to that later.

On that day, as Uncle drove me out of the village, I thought he would finally tell me why he had come back for me.

Instead, all he said was, “Abby, your aunty made a mistake bringing you back. Don’t worry—she will apologise when you get home.”

It sounded unbelievable, but my mind was already elsewhere.

As we drove past the dusty roads, I made a silent vow:

I would do everything in my power never to return.

I would stay in Lagos forever.

Did I get my wish?

Well… let’s wait and see.

Hmmm…


Chris

Mr Sam’s words saved me from making the biggest mistake of my life.

“Don’t believe everything you think.”

That phrase became my mantra.

When self-doubt crept in, I repeated it.
When I feared I would never be better than my father, I held onto it.
When Paul and his gang tried to break me, those words became my shield.

And then… came Bisi.

By my third year, Paul was gone.

He had been transferred to another university because his gang activities got all his friends rusticated. I heard his father quickly arranged for his transfer to Lagos University before the Senate could make an official announcement.

Good riddance to bad rubbish.

I was in the library one afternoon when I heard a soft, melodic voice.

“Hello, could you help me, please?”

I looked up—and there she was.

The most beautiful girl I had ever seen.

She had big brown eyes, short boyish hair, and a smile that could melt ice.

I stuttered as I asked how I could help.

That day marked the beginning of our friendship.

I say friendship, but a few weeks later, I was walking to the cafeteria when I saw her coming out with her friends.

They stopped, and—right in front of everyone—she said, “Guys, meet my boyfriend I’ve been telling you about.”

Wait. What?!

Blushing and completely perplexed, I mumbled, “Hi, guys.”

That was the first time I heard that I was her boyfriend.

She simply walked away, giggling with her friends.

That evening, she came to my room and asked, “Don’t you want to be my boyfriend?”

I didn’t know what to say.

But in hindsight, I should have said, No way! and taken to my heels.

Oh, dear Lord, what a mess I got myself into…

Hmmm…

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