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❤️ 5 Signs You May Need Couples Counselling

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“Love is not always easy—but it should never feel impossible.”

No couple is perfect. Every relationship has seasons—moments of warmth, and times of winter. But when you start to feel more distant than connected, or you’ve forgotten what brought you together in the first place, it might be time to ask: Could we use some help?

Here are five honest signs couples counselling might be the healing space you both need:

  1. You keep having the same arguments—with no resolution.
    If you’re stuck in a cycle, it’s not always about the topic—it’s about how you’re communicating. Counselling can break the loop and build bridges where blame once lived.
  2. You feel more like roommates than romantic partners.
    Lack of intimacy, emotional or physical, can be a red flag. You’re sharing space, but not life. Therapy can help you reconnect with intention.
  3. One of you has emotionally checked out.
    When one partner seems distant, apathetic, or disinterested in repair, it hurts deeply. A counsellor can help unpack what’s behind the detachment.
  4. Trust has been broken.
    Infidelity, lies, or betrayal—these wounds run deep. Healing is possible, but it requires transparency, accountability, and a safe place to process. That’s where a skilled guide is invaluable.
  5. You both want to grow, but don’t know how.
    Sometimes it’s not a crisis—it’s just a quiet knowing that “we could be better.” And that’s beautiful. Counselling isn’t only for couples in chaos—it’s for couples who care enough to invest in their future.

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ENTRY 26

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ABBY:
Needless to say, I found myself at the University of Ibadan.

Now, you’d think I’d be full of gratitude to Chief and his wife for turning my life around—and don’t get me wrong, I was—but deep down, I still wanted more.

By now, I was 17. I’d lived with them for over a year, and I was no longer the Abby from the village. My blackmailing tendencies had been curbed—at least I’d learnt the hard way that life outside the village wasn’t always as straightforward as it had been with my dad and aunt.

Chief’s wife made my stay in Ibadan extremely comfortable. They rented me a beautifully furnished apartment, bought me a brand-new car, and opened a bank account that was generously topped up every month.

For four years, I lived a life of luxury.

I studied hard—surprisingly—considering the number of friends and parties I had, and I graduated with a 2:1 in Law.

At 20, I was unrecognisable from the naïve girl I once was.

As a graduation gift, I was given a two-week holiday in London. Not my first time out of the country, mind you—I’d already been to Dubai, Spain, South Africa, and Zanzibar with Chief’s wife. Every time she “needed a break,” I was the lucky one she dragged along.

Shopping. Sun. Spa days.

We flew business class, sat side by side, sipping champagne like mother and daughter.

But one thing still puzzled me—why was nothing ever said about her children?

And I found out, in London.

Chief arranged for someone named Aunty Tracy to pick me up from Heathrow. She dropped me off at Chief’s flat in Chelsea—a lush three-bedroom apartment overlooking the Chelsea Bridge.

She showed me the fully stocked fridge, the new phone with credit, the chauffeur’s number, and the credit card I could use for anything I wanted.

All arranged by Chief.

The next three days, I did what any excited 20-year-old would do—soaked in the jacuzzi with the doors open to the city view, ordered pizza, ice cream, Chinese takeaway, watched films on the big screen.

Bored, I called the driver and asked to be taken to a nightclub. Definitely not like the ones back home.

For three days, I lived like a princess.

Then, one afternoon, I went out to the London Eye and came back home…

…only to find Chief sitting in the living room, staring straight at me.

Hmmm…


CHRIS:
I never imagined walking could hurt like that.

Blisters. Sunburn. Legs that felt like lead. That constant fear that one more step might be my last.

We walked all day. Only stopping when the sun was too harsh or someone nearly collapsed.

Our guides hardly spoke. And when they did, it was always the same: “Keep moving.”

Thomas and I stuck together. We shared what little water we had left, whispered prayers under our breath, and gave each other nods of encouragement.

The desert had no mercy.

By the time we got to our first resting point, the heat was unbearable.

We were drenched in sweat, panting for breath. The guides tied us together with rope around our waists, so if one person stopped, everyone stopped. It forced us to move as one.

They led us into a shallow cave—not deep, but cool enough to give us some relief.

We were told to eat, lie down, and sleep. At sundown, we’d continue.

There was a wave of silent relief as we untied ourselves, flopped to the ground, and took slow sips of water. I ate a bit of bread, laid my head on my bag, and before I knew it, I had passed out from exhaustion.

A few hours later, I was jolted awake by screaming.

Disoriented, I sat up—only to see what was left of the boy who had been lying closest to the entrance.

A mountain lion had attacked.

Half his body was gone.

The girls were wailing. The rest of us stood, frozen, trembling.

The guides, emotionless as ever, stepped in.

“This is the reality of the desert,” one of them said flatly.

They picked up what was left of him and ordered us to dig a shallow grave with old tin plates. We buried him silently, no prayers, no goodbyes. Just sand.

Then the guide turned to us and said,

“That’s his life now. The rest of you—pack up. We’ve got a long way to go.”

Hmmm…

Entry 25

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ABBY:
For clarity and context, let me describe the kind of luxury I found myself in.

First, let me be honest—God really does work in mysterious ways.

If I hadn’t blackmailed Mr 16, which led to him doing what he did… Uncle wouldn’t have kicked me out. If I hadn’t been kicked out, Madam J wouldn’t have picked me up and sent me on that mad errand. And if none of that had happened, I would never have landed in this life of absolute luxury.

When I say luxury, I mean my bedroom alone was bigger than my aunt’s entire downstairs space. That includes her living room and kitchen.

I had my own en suite bathroom, and a walk-in wardrobe—which, by the way, filled up fast with clothes, shoes and handbags.

A private driver took me to school each day and waited outside until I finished, then brought me home again. I was waited on hand and foot.

At first, it was thrilling. But then… something didn’t sit right.

One day, I asked the housekeeper and the chef where the family’s children were. They both said, “They’re abroad.”

No photos. No keepsakes. Just pictures of Chief and his wife around the house.

A few weeks after I finished my final Form 5 exams (now called JSS3), my new ‘mum’ came bursting into my room, grinning.

“Abby, my darling! I’ve got great news! You’ve been offered admission to the University of Ibadan to study Law!”

Let’s pause here.

Ibadan?!

Really?

In my head, I was already halfway to Oxford, Cambridge, Yale… those were the schools our posh secondary school talked about as destinations for us—if our parents were willing to send us abroad.

I’d even been included in the special tutoring classes for international entrance exams.

Yes, Chief had insisted I also take JAMB, just in case. But I thought that was just to tick a box—because, obviously, I’d be going abroad like the rest of their children.

This… this was a major disappointment. And I didn’t hide it.

Hmmm…

Entry 24

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ABBY:
Now, let’s pause here.

The moment Chief’s wife looked at me in surprise when I said I had never been intimate with a man—that was the day I truly understood my innocence… and my gullibility.

Her entire demeanour changed. Her voice softened as she leaned closer and asked again if I was telling the truth.

I nodded, and with trembling hands, I explained how I’d come to live with Madam J—carefully omitting the fact that I had blackmailed my way into Lagos and stayed by playing games.

She listened. Then sighed.

“Abby, my dear girl,” she said. “You’ve been led astray. A young girl like you deserves a better life. Give me a moment.”

She left the room.

Thirty minutes later, she returned with a gentle smile and said, “From today, you’ll live with us. Like our daughter.”

My eyes widened.

“My driver will take you to your village to inform your parents. Then you’ll return immediately. You’ll resume school and live the life you deserve.”

Now, I know what you’re thinking—thank God for me, hallelujah, finally!

Well… let’s see what happened.

When I arrived back in the village, the driver brought a truckload of food and an envelope filled with cash from Chief for my family.

My father was ecstatic.

He hugged me tightly and said, “You are a child of good luck! Look at these blessings you’ve brought us!”

But my mum wasn’t smiling.

She folded her arms and asked, “Why does this family want to take care of you? How did you meet them? I’m not comfortable with any of this.”

Before I could even answer, my dad snapped, “Of course you’re not comfortable. I break my back every day just to feed this family, and now, finally—finally—someone sends us food, clothes, money, and even a letter saying we’ll receive a monthly allowance… and you’re here asking questions?”

He turned to me and said, “Abby, well done. Go and flourish. You’re on the right path.”

And my mum, quietly, with sadness in her eyes, simply replied,

“Is she, though?”

Hmmm…


CHRIS:
Thomas and I didn’t sleep a wink.

Those four hours went by like four minutes. Around 4 a.m., the two guides returned and said, “Wake up, everyone. Freshen up—we move again.”

For those of us already awake, we quickly brushed our teeth and washed our faces. Those still trying to wake up eventually joined the queue.

Funny how I look back at that moment now—how surreal it all felt.

I can’t even explain the mix of emotions Thomas and I were feeling. Anxiety. Fear. Gratitude. Hope. And again—fear.

As I brushed my teeth, I could feel the eyes of the guides on me, silently urging me to be quick.

Two minutes. That’s all I took. Then I stepped aside for Thomas.

I rolled up my mattress, packed my bag, and for a brief second let myself imagine the future:

The life I’d have abroad. The luxury. The look on my parents’ faces when I started sending money in foreign currency.

The wife. The children. The cars.

That daydream didn’t last long.

Suddenly, the guide shouted, “Change your clothes! Put on your boots and headscarf!”

These were the items they’d told us to buy. Everyone got dressed quickly.

Then the guide yelled, “Let’s go. It’s almost daylight.”

We filed outside. It wasn’t as dark as when we arrived, and I tried to adjust my eyes.

That’s when I realised something…

The bus was gone.

Others began looking around, confused.

Then the guide stood in front of us and said:

“Guys, welcome to the second step in your journey to a better life. From now on—we walk. No more bus. This is the beginning of the desert.

“It’s a long and dangerous journey, so keep up.

“Ration your food. The next stop is a Bedouin camp—three days away.

“If you choose to stay behind, the bus won’t return for another two months.

“Good luck.”

Hmmm…

Healthy & Toxic Friendships Setting Boundaries

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Friendships are one of the most important aspects of life. A healthy friendship provides support, joy, and mutual growth, while a toxic friendship can drain your energy, damage your confidence, and leave you feeling unappreciated. Recognising the difference between the two and knowing when to set boundaries—or even walk away—is essential for your well-being. Here’s how to build healthy friendships and let go of those that no longer serve you.

What Makes a Friendship Healthy?

1. Mutual Support and Encouragement

A good friend celebrates your successes and lifts you up during tough times. There’s no competition, jealousy, or belittling—just genuine support and happiness for each other’s achievements.

2. Trust and Honesty

Healthy friendships are built on trust. You should feel comfortable sharing your thoughts without fear of judgment or betrayal. An honest friend tells you the truth, even when it’s difficult, but always with kindness and respect.

3. Balanced Give-and-Take

Friendship should never feel one-sided. Both people should contribute equally to the relationship, whether it’s making plans, offering advice, or just checking in. If you’re always the one giving while the other takes, it may be time to reevaluate.

4. Respect for Boundaries

A true friend understands and respects your personal boundaries. Whether it’s your time, space, or emotional limits, they won’t pressure you into doing things that make you uncomfortable or drain your energy.

5. Ability to Resolve Conflict

Disagreements happen, but healthy friends work through them with maturity and respect. They listen, apologise when necessary, and make an effort to fix issues rather than hold grudges or resort to passive aggression.

Signs of a Toxic Friendship

1. Constant Negativity and Criticism

Toxic friends put you down, make you feel small, or dismiss your feelings. They may be overly critical, sarcastic, or unsupportive of your goals and dreams.

2. Manipulation and Guilt-Tripping

If a friend constantly makes you feel guilty for setting boundaries or making choices that suit you, they are manipulating you. A healthy friend respects your decisions, even if they don’t always agree with them.

3. Jealousy and Competitiveness

A toxic friend might struggle with your success and try to compete with you instead of celebrating your wins. They may downplay your achievements or act bitter when you succeed.

4. Unreliability and Disrespect for Your Time

Flaking on plans, only reaching out when they need something, or ignoring your time commitments are signs of a friend who doesn’t truly value you.

5. Draining Your Energy

Do you feel exhausted or stressed after spending time with this friend? If a friendship feels more like a burden than a source of joy, it may be toxic.

Setting Boundaries in Friendships

Boundaries protect your emotional well-being. Here’s how to set them:

1. Be Clear and Direct

Communicate your limits honestly. If you don’t want late-night calls, constant venting, or last-minute

Entry 20

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ABBY:
You know those moments when you suddenly remember something from your past—and it hits you like a lightbulb switching on? You stop and think, Wow… what was I thinking?

I’ve had so many of those moments. And each time, my mind goes back to something my mum used to say:

“Abby, life is like a journey. When you choose a road, you might still have a small chance to turn back or take a different path. But once you hit the expressway, there’s no turning back.”

I didn’t understand her then. But now, with hindsight, there are roads I wish I’d never taken and so many opportunities to turn around that I foolishly ignored.

One of those moments came when Madam J returned from her trip. She called me into her bedroom.

I was 16, going on 21—convinced I knew everything.

“Abby,” she said, “do you remember promising me you’d do anything for me?”

I nodded. “Yes, Aunty, I remember.”

She smiled. Then calmly laid out what she wanted me to do.

Simple. I was already a master of the craft.

The next day, I set off for Chief Bolade’s office, wearing a provocative outfit that Madam J had selected for me.

Let’s pause here for a second.

I’ve never actually described what I looked like at that age. I was 5ft 7, size 8, with a 36-inch bust and wide hips—a proper hourglass figure, as they used to call it.

I had never tried to enhance anything until Madam J stepped in. She picked the right clothes, slapped makeup on my face, straightened my hair and tied it in a sleek ponytail. Wigs weren’t yet popular then—but I could’ve easily passed for a 20-year-old.

So I got to Chief’s office.

I told the secretary I was his niece. The man scanned me from head to toe, clearly undressing me with his eyes. I could see he was wondering why a respected man’s ‘niece’ looked like a call girl. But he didn’t say a word.

He ushered me straight into Chief’s office.

Chief looked surprised. “Hello, young lady. How may I help you?”

I glanced over at the secretary, and Chief immediately dismissed him.

Then I sat down.

And repeated—word for word—everything Madam J had told me to say.

Hmmm…


CHRIS:
My destiny was on the line. So was my life.

This mission—this move—was all in my hands.

Edward already had a head start, and I was not going to fall behind. Not that I was jealous—no. But I couldn’t pretend it didn’t bother me.

Before settling on the “alternative” route, three visa agents had already scammed me out of a fortune—with no results. This was all I had left.

So, at 6 a.m., I left the house for my 9 a.m. appointment.

You might be wondering why I left that early. Clearly, you’ve never been to Lagos. One wrong turn and you could be stuck in four hours of traffic—and when you finally get moving, there’ll be no sign of what caused the jam in the first place.

I arrived at the travel office and walked into the reception. Four people were already waiting.

The receptionist checked my details and asked me to join the group.

An hour later, a door at the far end of the corridor opened, and a man ushered us into a room with a long table and ten chairs.

Another man entered shortly after and said, “Welcome, ladies and gentlemen. Why are you here?”

It sounded like a strange question—but he insisted we answer.

He went around the room.

One person said, “I’m escaping my reality.”
Another said, “For greener pastures.”
Another added, “I want a better life.”

Then it came to me.

I replied, “Destiny.”

The man smiled. “Okay. So… a better life. Change your situation. Fulfil destiny. Now that you know why you’re here and where you want to go, I’ll tell you how to get from here to there.”

He continued, “We run an alternative relocation programme. You must be fit, healthy, determined, have the full fees, and—most importantly—be able to keep your mouth shut.”

“Are you all on the same page?” he asked.

We nodded.

He raised his voice. “I said—are you all on the same page?”

“Yes, sir!” we all shouted in unison.

Then he said, “Be here in six weeks.”

He handed each of us a list of things to bring—and the total fees. Then he left the room.

We all sat there staring at the paper, wondering…

How in God’s name are these things going to get us to our destiny?

But we were just about to find out.

Hmmm…

Entry 19

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ENTRY 19

ABBY:
Madam J. I had no idea what I had just stepped into.

That day, she drove me straight to her house. She called for her maid to serve me food and show me to a bedroom at the back of the building.

The next morning, I was invited to eat breakfast with her. She asked if I’d slept well, then said she had a proposition for me.

I was excited. I told her yes, I’d slept well and asked her to please go on.

She leaned in, her voice calm but deliberate.

“Abby, I’ve been where you are. My stepmother kicked me out of the house when I turned sixteen. My father just folded his arms and said nothing. He stayed there with the three children she brought in from her previous marriage.

I was the black sheep. My father had told her I was his niece, so she treated me like a slave.

When she eventually found out I was his daughter, the treatment only got worse. She framed me for theft, constantly started fights between me and her daughters—two of whom were older than me.

Every day my father returned from work, it was one issue or another she had cooked up about me. He never wanted to hear my side of the story.

The final straw was when she lied that her gold chain had gone missing. A ‘search’ was done and, surprise surprise, it was mysteriously found in my luggage.

That day, she insisted my father kick me out. He said no, because I was underage—not even sixteen.

A year and two months later, the day after my sixteenth birthday, I got home and found my clothes already packed.

She said, ‘We can’t harbour a thief in this house. You lie, steal, fight… we don’t want you influencing the other children. You’ve got to go.’

And my father just sat there, nodding in agreement.”

She paused for a moment, then said, “So you see, Abby, I’ve been where you are. And I want to help you—because someone helped me too.”

“So, what do you say?”

I was elated. From hopeless and homeless to hopeful and sheltered.

Then she smiled and asked, “You do know how to show appreciation, right?”

I replied, “Of course, Aunty. Name it, I’ll do anything.”

“Anything?” she asked again, curiously.

“Yes,” I replied.

Then she gave me a long, knowing look with a sly smile and said, “My darling girl… remember this day—when you promised me anything I ask.”

“Go and have some rest. I’m travelling for a few days. When I return, I’ll tell you what that ‘anything’ is.”

Hmmm…


CHRIS:
My destiny. That’s all I could think about.

I had just turned down a fully-funded Master’s scholarship—with a guaranteed job at the end. It sounded perfect. But it wasn’t my path. My destiny, according to the prophet, was across water.

Meanwhile, Edward was already building his destiny. And that made me anxious. He had an eight-month head start.

So I intensified my search. That’s when I stumbled upon a website: Fulfilled Dreams – Travel Abroad Alternatives.

Excited, I called the number immediately.

I was put through to someone called “The Coordinator.” She asked how she could help.

I said, “I want to go overseas.”

She asked why. I replied, “To fulfil my destiny.”

Then she asked, “Where?”

I hesitated. “What do you mean?”

She said, “UK or Europe?”

I asked which was better.

She replied, “Europe.”

So I said, “Europe.”

She then asked if I was on any regular medication. I said no.

And finally, she asked, “Are you sentimental?”

I didn’t understand that question—but I was about to.

After answering all her questions, she gave me an appointment to come to their office—six weeks from that day.

The only issue? I had told her I had more money than I actually did.

So now, I had six weeks to find a way to raise the extra cash…

Hmmm…

ENTRY 18

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ENTRY 18

ABBY:
Madam J.

She was formidable, alright. Cruising up and down our street in her black Jeep, just to flaunt how much money she had—it wasn’t a secret. A few times she’d wave like she was the Queen of England, feigning a posh accent mixed with our local dialect. Honestly, it used to make me laugh.

Anyway, on that fateful day when Uncle kicked me out—after the whole Mr 16 incident—I found myself wandering the streets aimlessly, completely lost.

Uncle insisted I return to the village and live with my parents. Aunty didn’t even bat an eyelid. I suppose she was relieved the only person who knew her secret was finally out of the house.

But going back to the village? That was never an option—not even for a second. Still, I had no clue where else I could go. No money. No relatives I could think of.

So I walked—up and down the street—no destination, no plan, just… walking.

That’s when Madam J pulled up beside me.

“Hey, you! Come here. Where are you going?” she called out through her tinted window.

I hadn’t even noticed her driver stop the car beside me—I was so deep in thought. I looked up to see her beaming, eyes waiting for my answer.

“Good evening, ma. I… I don’t know,” I stammered.

Obviously, she demanded an explanation.

I told her it was a long story. She simply said, “Get in.”

With no other choice and nowhere else to go—and besides, I knew her—I thought, What harm could she do?

But I was wrong.

My choice to follow Madam J took me down paths you wouldn’t believe…

Hmmm…


CHRIS:
Destiny across water.

That phrase stayed with me. Day and night, all I could think about was going abroad. It made so much sense.

I imagined the money I’d earn, the look on my parents’ faces when I started sending money home, the mansion I’d build in the village… my thoughts ran wild.

But then reality kicked in. I didn’t have enough money for a plane ticket. My parents couldn’t even afford my university fees, let alone fund me to go overseas. So… what now?

I started researching online—looking for alternate ways to travel abroad. That’s when I discovered something shocking: some people were going by road. Walking, taking boats, even swimming.

But before I went that far…

About eight months after graduation—and after the prophecy—Edward landed a job at a multinational company.

He rang me up, buzzing with excitement.

“Bro! I’ve found my destiny! I’m gonna work hard and climb to the top—I’ll be a partner one day!”

I laughed and said, “Slow down, bro. How do you even know this is the place?”

Edward replied confidently, “My heart tells me. I’m putting everything into this.”

I was happy for him. Truly. But it made me think… Will my journey abroad go that smoothly?

Six months later, I was still researching—still searching. Looking for cheaper ways to make the move.

I found some routes—using other people’s documents and connections—but they were ridiculously expensive. Costing an arm and a leg.

I grumbled to Edward, and he said, “Bro, my office is offering Master’s scholarships to all First Class Economics graduates. Why don’t you apply and join us?”

“Absolutely not,” I replied. “Are you trying to stall my destiny?”

Hmmm…

Preparing for a Strong and Lasting Relationship

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Entering a committed relationship is a beautiful journey, but it’s also a significant transition that requires preparation. Before two lives merge into one, it’s essential to lay a strong foundation based on self-awareness, communication, and shared values. Rushing in without preparation can lead to challenges that could have been avoided. Here’s how to prepare yourself before taking that big step.

Key Areas to Focus on Before Entering a Serious Relationship

1. Know Yourself First

Before committing to another person, ensure you understand yourself. What are your values, goals, and personal boundaries? Are you happy with who you are as an individual? A strong relationship begins with two whole people coming together, not two halves seeking completion.

2. Develop Emotional Maturity

Love isn’t just about attraction—it’s about emotional intelligence. Can you manage conflict constructively? Are you able to express your needs without fear? Emotional stability and maturity will set the tone for a healthy relationship, ensuring you both handle challenges with patience and understanding.

3. Communicate Openly and Honestly

Communication is the backbone of any relationship. Before becoming one, practice expressing your thoughts and feelings clearly. Learn to listen actively and understand your partner’s perspective without judgment. Establishing open and honest communication early will prevent misunderstandings later.

4. Align Your Core Values

Opposites may attract, but shared values sustain a relationship. Discuss key topics like family, finances, career aspirations, and lifestyle choices. Ensuring alignment in these fundamental areas will reduce potential conflicts and make your journey together smoother.

5. Set Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries are essential in any relationship. What are your non-negotiables? How do you expect to be treated? Knowing and communicating your boundaries will help foster respect and prevent future resentment.

6. Build Financial Awareness

Money is one of the top causes of relationship stress. Before combining lives, discuss your financial habits, spending styles, and future financial plans. Transparency in financial matters can prevent unnecessary conflicts down the road.

7. Learn to Be Independent First

A great relationship consists of two independent people who choose to be together, not two individuals who rely on each other for happiness. Develop your own interests, passions, and friendships. Being comfortable on your own will prevent codependency and make your relationship stronger.

How to Prepare for a Healthy Relationship

1. Work on Personal Growth

Invest in self-improvement, whether through learning new skills, therapy, or personal development. The better you are as an individual, the better you can contribute to a partnership.

2. Observe and Learn from Healthy Relationships

Look at couples who inspire you. What makes their relationship work? Pay attention to how they handle disagreements, support each other, and maintain their connection over time.

3. Take Time to Build a Strong Friendship First

The best relationships have a foundation of friendship. Take time to genuinely know your partner without rushing into labels or commitments. The stronger your friendship, the deeper your romantic connection will be.

4. Understand the Realities of Commitment

Love is not just about butterflies and grand gestures; it’s about patience, compromise, and effort. Be ready to support your partner through both good and challenging times.

5. Have the Tough Conversations Early

Don’t avoid difficult discussions about the future. Talk about marriage, children, career ambitions, and other major life decisions before committing fully. Clarity now prevents heartbreak later.

Final Thoughts

Before two become one, preparation is key. Love is more than just emotion—it’s a decision to grow together, respect one another, and build something meaningful. By focusing on personal development, communication, and shared values, you’ll create a strong foundation for a healthy, lasting relationship.

Take your time, enjoy the journey, and make sure you’re truly ready before merging lives. The strongest relationships are built on intention, not impulse.

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