Dear Diary -Day 8

April 21, 2019

The call came in around 2pm yesterday, , he asked for my email address . A few minutes later a request was sent for me to furnish 4 luxury homes , I was asked to submit my quotation immediately . I fell on my knees with my hands raised up , screaming Thank you God, I had prayed to God for a particular amount for a very urgent need, Kenneth Hagin’s book , Bible study prayer course , had taught me how to pray for answers , it’s called The key to answered prayers , I put what I read into practice and the result was divine . God Almighty had favoured me.

I rolled on the carpet , thanking God , I couldn’t believe I just did that, my Mum used to do it every time she was thanking God, I used to make fun of her, now it was my turn, hmmm, life is full of surprises .

Anyway let me digress a little, just before the call came , a friend had called that she needed some advice , she came down to my office and told me she had a really serious problem . She was not being satisfied by her hubby sexually , she asked me what I thought she should do? I paused for a minute , then asked if she had discussed this with him, she said she had but almost every time he gets upset and says he’s perfectly capable of satisfying any woman that she must have a problem of her own. She confided in my that almost all the time she faked her orgasms, and that he was incapable of getting her to orgasm naturally.

Anytime they had sex , he just bounced up and down on top of her until he came then he rolls over and starts to snore, his only foreplay was to rub her nipples up and down and that was that. He was so selfish she said.
I remembered having this same conversation with some other friends of ours and now they are finally both enjoying their love making and according to them it’s getting g better and better everyday .

I asked my friend if she won’t mind if I spoke to her husband privately about this , then get them both together to talk about it, she said that was fine, Saturday night at 7 pm , she will let him know I was coming over to see him. Today was Wednesday. I had three days to try to sort this out, even though I talk on this topic all the time, every relationship is different , I had to keep an open mind until I heard his side of the story…….

I got back on my laptop and started to write out the proposal , it was due in tomorrow, I was told my deposit of 80% would be made available immediately . As I thought about it , my mums favourite song came to my mind ….and I sang and sang unto the Lord…..

Got to go now , see you guys tomorrow ….

Dear Diary – Day 7

April 20, 2019

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Yesterday started off really slow but quickly took off like a cheetah on steroids , if that makes any sence. Woke up at the usual time did my morning rituals , then I couldn’t decided which shoes to wear, my outfit was plain enough but just couldn’t make up my mind , so I brought out 4 pairs that matched and began catwalking in front of the mirror. Finally decided on the brown sandals , hmmm , women and their wahala.

Drove out of my area onto the highway and just as I pulled out ,I saw a man waving me to stop , he was standing next to his car, a very nice one . I was reluctant, he could be an armed robber or kidnapper or worse, anyway I reversed back cos I had driven passed him. He walked up to the side of my car and said he needed my help. I thought maybe he ran out of gas. I could see he was a bit embarrassed , so I asked him what the matter was. He and his driver were on their way to an important meeting , his driver had been late showing up this morning ,he was very angry with the driver , while they were driving he was telling the driver off and threatened to sack him, the driver just indicated , moved over to the hard shoulder. Switched off the engine , threw his key at him and walked away. And guess what the most surprising thing was , he couldn’t drive.

I was so shocked , a grown man of late 30’s or early 40’s, I guess and couldn’t drive, I found that ridiculously funny, he explained that it would take to long to get someone else to come pick him, if I could please drive him to his meeting which he was almost late for , he would be eternally grateful, so against all of my better judgement , I asked him to come in and I drove him to his meeting , we exchanged nos and I was off.

At around 4pm , a call with a restricted no came on my phone , I asked my PA to pick it up , the caller asked for me and said it was urgent , from one of the State governments liaison offices. I took the phone said hello , the voice said they were sending a car to pick me up that the governors son will like to meet with me for a meeting .

I got to the liaison office and was ushered in to a big palatial room, waiting in there was the man I had picked up this morning , he was the Governors first son. I was very surprised , he got up to welcome me and with so much gratitude in his eyes he ushered me to sit down beside him. He started off by explaining that the meeting he was rushing too was a state affair, his father had nominated him to represent the state and sign a very lucrative deal with some foreign investors who wanted to invest in the state . If he had missed the meeting , the investors would have pulled out of the deal for sure . He thanked me so much and then asked me what I did for work , I told him I was a consultant , he then said okay. He will call me tomorrow, offered me a drink , I respectfully declined , he saw me off to the car that had been sent to pick me up and asked them to take me back to my office .

As they drove me back to my office and as I drove back home yesterday evening , I kept thinking what does he want to say to me today …well let’s wait and see.

WHAT NOW ? 3

April 18, 2019

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WHAT NOW? 3

Feelings, they say cannot be controlled. It’s a fact that you can’t control who falls in love with you, But can you really control whom YOU fall in love with?

Believe me, I tried but did I succeed? Well, let’s see….

As I said in the last episode, I was determined to keep myself, no man was going to use me and dump me. I certainly hadn’t factored in my feelings, hmmm sneaky little things….

Through all my survival tactics, I definitely didn’t take ‘Arthur’ into account. I would never forget the day Arthur walked into my life. I was sited with my friends at the quadrangle waiting for the next lecture and I hear a voice saying “Hello Beautiful”. At first, I ignore it because I really didn’t think it was meant for me, Six of us were sitting there and when you say beautiful, hmmm, I don’t think I ranked 1^st or even 3^rd on that list. Well, I think I need to explain.

I was what you called a ‘plain Jane’, Tall, very skinny, no makeup. That was me. I had an amazing shape and lovely straight legs though. Legs so Famous that got me offered competitions for Miss Hot legs several times, which I declined of course. They also got compliments every day, “Nice legs, Hot legs, Sexy legs” lol. But I still was plain Jane, you understand how making up enhances the features, don’t you. I was just ‘there’ as they say. One bonus thing though, i was told I had a great attitude, well, I didn’t realize that at the time.

But for some strange reason, out of all my sexy, beautiful, ‘Pre supposed’ upper-class friends, I got the most attention. Let me explain. Every time we walked from the hostels to the lecture room, almost everyone we met, and this is not an exaggeration, would say Hello to me and I would respond, “Hello, how are you?” O my gosh!, this infuriated my friends, they would get so upset “Why do you have to say hello to everyone? What’s wrong with you? These people are beneath you, bla! bla!!Bla!!!,” and they will go on. But did I care? I would just look at them, smile and say “Ladies, keep your wigs on, stop getting your knickers in a twist, these are people like you and I, do you want me to disrespect them? My dear friends will just roll their eyes up and down, ‘kiss their teeth’ and we will continue on our walk.

The truth is, I was never going to bow to peer pressure, become a snub, too proud to acknowledge a greeting? Of course not. I was my own person, no one will tell me what to do or what not to do. I wasn’t going to become something I wasn’t because I had friends who felt they were too cool to be seen talking to people they felt were beneath them. Absolutely not. Honestly, I didn’t if they were upset or not, no one was beneath me, why would saying hello to someone, demean me? I couldn’t understand it. So, “why won’t they stop being friends with me”, you ask? Well, I was the only one born abroad, and though you might not see it as a big deal now, back then it was a very big deal to be born abroad and in addition have a different accent, well, that was me.

Anyway, let’s get back to Arthur. I heard the voice again, this time everyone else did too, so I look up and there was this drop-dead gorgeous guy. I still remember that day like it was yesterday, he had on blue jeans, a lovely stripped T-shirt and a smile that could melt the hardest of hearts.

“Me?” I asked, feeling confused. “Yes, you, who else would I be referring too,” He said, looking around at my friends. Now, he certainly had my friends’ full attention, all waiting to see what will happen next. To their surprise, he held out his hand and said: “May I take you to lunch?.” Oh my gosh! , everyone gasped, “What? Why does she get the finest looking guy on campus, that’s not fair, Please God let her say no”. Those were my friends’ thoughts, I could read it on their faces. But I couldn’t be bothered, even when the one sitting beside me, nudged me and shuck her head, indicating that I should say No to Arthur’s offer. I ignored her, picked up my satchel and said: “Yes, you may”. Everyone froze in shock. Was Arthur finally going to be the one….

They were in for a very nice surprise….

Dear Diary (6)

April 14, 2019

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Surprisingly I got a lot of inbox messages regarding the “question” I posted yesterday , here are a few-

” you have just described my love making experience perfectly, thank you, I will talk to my hubby”

” my wife does complain of headaches and tiredness atimes , I sincerely hope this in not the case with her”

” in my case I want to try different positions besides the missionary , but my wife doesn’t, what’s a man to do”

” Am too shy to talk to my hubby about our love making “

” Thank you She Heals , you have addressed an issue affecting a lot of couples”

” I think our husbands should be less selfish when it comes to love making, they need to ensure that we are satisfied as well”

We pray we can all heal by talking to each other……..

Good morning …..

Dear Diary (5)

April 14, 2019

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My guest just left a few minutes ago, feeling a bit tired but I promised you the end of my discussion with “innocent” so here it is-

I said,” but if I may ask, why haven’t you spoken to your hubby about this are you afraid or what?

She said ,” the truth is I don’t know how too, there are things I would love to do to my hubby when we are making love but am scared he will think am too experienced , my mum taught me a girl is supposed to be conservative in bed”

I said, ” conservative with your hubby?” I believe he is the only one you shouldn’t be conservative with, you should be anything you want to be with him, open to anything that would make both of you enjoy your love making”

She said , ” well for one , am tired of the missionary position That’s all he wants to do, ”

I said , ” the bottom line is that you both need to sit down and talk about this , am sure he will be open to listen to you if you talk to him in a sweet and loving manner , not making him feel inadequate ”

She said” okay , I will give it a try, and I hope it works ”

I said , ” it will, you’ll see”

After our discussion it got me thinking about all the friends both male and female , that talk to me about this , a lot of the Men complain that their partners just lay there and allow them do all the work, a lot of women complain about not deriving pleasure from love making because Men just want to get on, do there business and get off.

I see the problem here , lack of communication. , both partners need to talk about what they desire when it comes to love making , they need not to be shy or reserved about their expectations and feeling s. Love making is meant to be one of the most pleasurable experiences of our lives , not a chore or an obligation but a bounding together of two souls who are in love,

Do have a good evening ……..

Dear Diary (4)

April 14, 2019

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O yes I remember I was going to discuss the question with you, for those of you who read the post yesterday, you know what question am talking about , “how do I tell my husband he doesn’t satisfy me in bed, without hurting his feelings and thinking am a Sxxx.”

We couldn’t believe “innocent ” as we all call her was asking that question, I found it refreshing for once that someone is not too ashamed or petrified to talk about SEX. Well , we all tried to say something but nothing came out , finally I said …

“Well , I think you should help him make you enjoy love making better , guide him to parts of your body which turn you on, your G spot for example, it’s important that he knows where it is so he can stimulate you during fore play.”

She said ..”what fore play, he just jumps on me and he’s good to go ”

I said “hmmm, well you talk to your man, tell him you need fore play to get you to the mood level he’s in ”

She said ” I told him once , about me wanting another go, at the end of our love making , he asked if I wanted to kill him” and ” that he was tired ”

I said ” your husband is 48, maybe he needs some multi vitamins to boost his libido”

She said ” well how do I tell him this, the worst part is, he just does his bit , and rolls over asleep in a second, he leaves me there very unsatisfied , it’s so frustrating and it’s gone on for so long , I don’t know what to do” ” sometimes I tell him I have a headache or don’t feel well just to avoid the stress I go through ”

I said ” you have to ,let him know how you feel , he might think he’s satisfying you and performing his duty properly, but you need to make him understand that , a woman needs foreplay to get her to the same level he is, then you both enjoy the love making and climax at the same time”

She said ” climax, what’s that , I can count the no of times I have climaxed, once he does , that’s it, I even tried encouraging him to touch me once , he just climaxed anyway before we got anywhere ”

I have to stop writing now , I can hear the door bell ……..will continue the story once my guest have gone …….

Dear Diary (3)

April 14, 2019

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Yesterday was our regular gist night, we get together to discuss, advice, confide, console if necessary and advice each other, a little gossip also helps…., anyway , A question came up, of theses four things , if you had to have one in your marriage and one only that you couldn’t do without , which would you choose-

love
Great sex
Lots of money
Absolute Trust
Fidelity

The house fell apart , the division was huge, before I let you into which everyone choose, which now would you rather have ….

O yes I did say I would let you know what everyone picked , well here we go-

Ms T, picked Love , ” I can’t do without love” she said ,

A woman is like a tea bag, you never know how strong she is, until you put her in hot water.

Dear Dairy (2)

April 14, 2019

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Reeling from yesterday’s surprise visit , I pondered over the Prince’s comment “I always get what I want”, who says that anymore , a male chauvinist who thinks because he’s got a bit of money in his pocket the world should bow to his every request. He must be high, who does he think he is , and so I went on as I sat behind my desk in my office this morning.

Anyway my thoughts were jolted when my executive assistant (ES) came into to say my 11am had arrived. The meeting dragged on for a while as we had a lot of points on the agenda to go through , some investment issues , I won’t bore you with the details . After that I had a 2 pm out of the office , the meeting had been arranged a few weeks ago. We had a pending partnership agreement that needed to be signed but the last time we met their chairman was out of the country.

We got a call 2 weeks ago that he would be in town this week and today at 2pm was fixed .

So I went back to my office to freshen up and pick up the partnership docs and proceeded to my 2pm, my intention was to go see my friend after and then go home from her office.

I got to the office 10mins early, I was ushered into the chairman’s waiting room, I was told by a nice young man that the chairman would be ready for me in a few minutes. I picked up a daily and just flipped through the pages , nothing seemed to sink, I was thinking and trying to imagine what the chairman would be like, old, middle age etc , I didn’t get far with my thoughts when the nice young man came to usher me in to the chairman’s office.

As I walked in , the office was very large , had a five seater settee on one side , a 6 table board room table to the other side and a mighty big desk towards the far end , black and white wall to wall carpet , a 50 inch tv and a bang and Olsen music system played jazz music .

I stood in front of the desk and asked the man with his back to me pouring himself a drink, if I may sit down, he said yes please and turned, I froze, it was Prince, the guy we met yesterday in my friends office. He smiled and said please sit down Ma’am , I like to check out my partners before I jump into bed with them.

I must have had my mouth open for a few minutes , I quickly took hold of my self and said good afternoon Sir. And proceeded to sit down. All the while my mind was going up and down not thinking of anything in particular just so confused , where is my friend when I need her. I decided to snap out of my confusion . So I asked, Sir , if I may ask, why would you pretend you were someone else yesterday , i suddenly realised I had started to use the word Sir, a lot , it seemed like the right thing to do. This was a man I had been trying to see for a while, he sat on the board of a Fortune 500 company and was chairman to 3 other very successful companies , I was in shock, I just bloated out a few why’s then when I realised no answer was coming forth from him ,I kept quiet.

He was staring at me for about 2 mins before he said , do you want to do this over lunch, I said No Sir, so fast before I even thought about it. He smiled and said , well am famished , it’s 2.30 pm , why don’t we go to lunch and discuss the agreement . I said No , am not hungry , got up and said , maybe I should let you go to lunch I will come back tomorrow morning and we can discuss the agreement then , he said he was busy tomorrow morning , today was best for him, am not sure what I was thinking , I picked up the documents and said well Sir, I see you are very busy now, so maybe the day after tomorrow would be more convenient , if you would be so kind to let me know when you are less busy and I can come back , I paused , he just keep staring at me, with a smile on his face , I was visibly shaken! said my good bye and walked out of the office. Am not sure how I got into my car drove to my friend’s office and climbed up the stairs , all I knew is I was sitting in front of my friend, telling her what just happened and asking what was I thinking when I worked out on a very lucrative partnership deal.

After a while I noticed my phone was on silent , i had 7 missed calls 1 from my ES and 6 from an unknown no, I decided to call my ES back and ignore the other call until I got home. My friend and I talked for about an hour she advised me to send a text and apologise for my over reaction. Got home around 7 pm , didn’t feel like eating anything just got my self ready for bed , watched some telly until I eventually feel asleep.

My phone beep woke me up around 4 am, I had 2 text come in at once from a Dubai no, opened the text and read ” Am so sorry for my manners yesterday, I believe I got carried away, please forgive me , I will make it up to you.

2nd text” on the other hand I would like to sign the deal today, my driver could pick you up in 4 hours , you fly in to Dubai on our corporate jet, we sign the agreement and you be back by tomorrow . What do you say ? , because am off to Montreal from here and not back for 2 weeks ”

Now I knew this this man had ulterior motives , I waited until it was morning and sent him a text declining his offer to come over to Dubai . I decided to make an offer, to DHL the docs for him to sign and have a Skype conference to discuss the details.I didn’t get a reply to my text, so I assumed he was no longer interested, I made up my mind that this wasn’t meant to be.

On the Saturday my friends came over to the house , I then tabled my decision to them, after much talk for about an hour or so, they all agreed that my decision was the right one and although they discussed how lucrative the deal was they respected my decision not to continue with it.

A couple of weeks passed , I had moved on from the missed partnership saga, a courier brought a letter from the company asking me to meet with the board of directors for a meeting to discuss the way forward . As I read through the letter I realised it was signed by the managing director , a Lady ,I decided to give her a call to decline rather than ignore the letter . She urged me to come along and that the chairman had instructed the board to meet with me to go through the documents and sign the partnership agreement.

I was in a dilemma , I really didn’t want to do business with Prince but I was also aware that he was hardly in the country and he had no business running the day to day affairs of the company, I decided to meditate and pray about it for awhile before I gave my final answer . After three days , I knew what I needed to do. I called up my long term business partner Mr S , who was also a partner in my other company, I told him the whole story and we decided that he will go to the meeting and sign the documents on our behalf . This was a perfect plan .

On the day of the signing , Mr S, went to the meeting , Prince was not there , the Board members were given the excuse that I was unavailable but he as a director was representing the company, the agreement was discussed and the partner ship was finally signed. A lucrative deal for our company , I was thankful to God everything had gone well in the end , now all we had to do was make Mr S the face of this partnership and we were sure everything would go well.

I was later to find out that some people with a lot of money and influence begin to think they can do and get anything they want but I was determined to let them know that no matter how rich or powerful you are , you cannot do or get everything you want….

A life letter to parents.

April 12, 2019

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Dear Mum and Dad,

Thank you so much for everything you have done for me. For bringing me into the world , for taking care of me, for celebrating my birthdays with wonderful parties and presents , for sending me to good schools. For taking me on holiday to amazing places, for buying me loads of clothes and toys , for giving me lots of pocket money , for even buying me a pet when I asked for it , for giving me everything I wanted But you forgot the most important .

You forgot to tell me that life would not always be so easy and that in life you can’t always have everything you want , I don’t know how to live the life you have thrust me into, am an adult now and still don’t know what to do in the real world , am in university , I have to share a room, I can’t take it, I have to wake up and get my own clothes sorted , I can’t take it, I have to get my meals or cook them, I can’t take it, I have to spend money wisely so it would last me all session, I can’t take it, I have to respect my lecturers , I can’t take it , am going crazy here, cannot afford the designer clothes and bags you bought me, I can’t take it .

My room mate just told me her life story and here it is- her parents were rich like mine , but she never had everything she wanted. Her parents taught her that in life you can’t always have everything so they made her decide between one or the other , she had to work for her pocket money, she went to school on the bus. Not chauffeur driven like me, she didn’t always go on summer holidays,she spent half of summer voluntarily at homeless shelters and children’s camps , to appreciate life that it’s a blessing to have a lot. Even though they had lots of rooms in their house she was made to share a room with her sister , she had chores she did every morning before she went to school, their maid wasn’t allowed to pack and wash her plates for her , she made her own bed, respected her elders and now she’s fully prepared to face life challenges.

What do I do, how do I cope in the real world , I can’t take it , You didn’t tell me you won’t always be there for me, I can’t take it Mum and Dad, you both left me on that horrible day our car crashed and only I survived , I still don’t understand why we couldn’t all go together , because am alive and well but totally hopeless , Please help me , what do I do?

Your clueless daughter

The $100 note

April 12, 2019

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It’s amazing how most of us, spend our wages before we get paid, or spend our business profit before the accounts are done.
Thinking you have money when as soon as you get paid its all gone , equates to not having any money at all, this short story illustrates how we spend money today …….

Its is raining, and the little town looks totally deserted. It is tough times, everybody is in debt, and everybody lives on credit. Suddenly, a rich tourist comes to town. He enters the only hotel, lays down a 100 dollar note on the reception counter, and goes to inspect the rooms upstairs in order to choose one. The hotel proprietor takes the 100 Dollar note and runs to pay his debt to the butcher. The butcher takes the 100 Dollar note, and runs to pay his debt to the pig grower.

The pig grower takes the 100 Dollar note, and runs to pay his debt to the supplier of his feed and fuel.

The supplier of feed and fuel takes the 100 Dollar note and runs to pay his debt to the town’s prostitute that in these hard times, gave her “services” on credit.

The hooker runs to the hotel, and pays off her debt with the 100 Dollar note to the hotel proprietor to pay for the rooms that she rented when she brought her clients there.

The hotel proprietor then lays the 100 Dollar note back on the counter so that the rich tourist will not suspect anything.

At that moment, the tourist comes down after inspecting the rooms, and takes his 100 Dollar note, after saying that he did not like any of the rooms, and leaves town.
No one earned anything.
But take consolation in the fact that they all paid their debts off and look forward to the next rich client ……

And that, ladies and gentlemen, is the reality of most of us…….get wise , start investing and saving today .stop accumulating liabilities and start getting assets