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COME ALONG WITH ME.

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Realizing you never really lived……
Its not death most people are afraid of, it’s getting to the end of life knowing you never really lived. Some elderly people getting to the end of life were asked to reflect on life, there biggest regret was not what they did but the things they didn’t do. Dreams they didn’t pursue, risk they didn’t take. Why do you exist, definitely it’s not just to work and pay rent at the end of the month, No, my friend, everyone has a gift, you need to pursue your dreams. Don’t let your last words be, I wish I had …….
Do you have the courage to pick up your dream and pursue them, you shouldn’t bury your dreams, if you do, you don’t thrive, you are built to live out your dream, take off don’t stay grounded.

The thief, doubt is after you dreams .He’s killed more dreams that failure ever did. He turns you into a ‘kind of’ person, you kind of want something, if you kind of want, you would also kind of get a result. You can’t kind of want it, you’ve got to want it with all your heart and you will get there if you try.

To get to the top of the mountains is not smooth, sharp ridges to be stepped over, you will get tired, you have to keep going, but you will get to the top and surely be successful. Keep on going, struggle, disappointments are all part of the journey to greatness. Sometimes you’ve got to leap first and grow your wings on the way down. Don’t get hunted with regret , you are not defined by your past , don’t let it define you, no overtime in life, if you don’t use your gift you sell not only yourself short but the while world;
Set yourself on the world stage you cannot go back and make a brand new beginning but you can definitely start now and make a brand new ending.

LOVE -Not Just for Valentine day

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NOT JUST ONE DAY….

Love, the four letter word that makes you do things you never thought you could. Giving up everything just to be with me. I love the way you give and give all, on this day 14th of February. You go out of your way to say things saved for this special day; “I LOVE YOU “.

You go out of your way to propose, get married, buy gifts, and go out to dinner. You profess to love ME SO MUCH, ON THIS SPECIAL DAY.

I remember it used to be SAD, a Single Awareness Day. Alone I will go to the movies, to dinner, buy myself gifts and say “it’s time to pamper Me”.

I remember looking in the mirror and finally believing “Today is the day I say to myself, I love me.” Finally that day once a year is here. Time to love me, I say.

Now I have you. So why do I have to wait for one particular day to be cherished? Especially a day that originally began with Abuse and death, to be cherished?

Don’t you think it’s strange that 364 days of the year you carry on without due concern to treat ME to your love, for dinner, amazing gift, an outing , flowers, chocolate, or trinkets?

But on this one day,  all that comes at once, WHY?

RATHER, EVERYDAY;

I need YOU

I want to be loved

I want to be woken up with a kiss, a cuddle, a massage

I want flowers

I want a mouthful of chocolate

I WANT to BE SPEACIAL

Trinkets dandling from my curvy ear lobes, and sitting pretty on the curves of my neck

Your loving arms around me, as we walk down the promenade to dinner

Munch popcorn from the same bag, as we watch our favorite romantic movie

The first thing on your mind and lips in the morning and the last at night

You, every second, every minute, and every hour, everyday day

All I want is to be loved and LOVE YOU ALWAYS

AND NOT JUST on ONE DAY but Everyday.

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MISGUIDED-The beginning of the End.

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The beginning of the end.

Poverty was a way of life for Mama and me, it wasn’t always like that, I think I was 7 when my father passed away suddenly from a brief illness and in a matter of days, the bank took everything he had worked for, claiming he owed money to them. We bounced around from friends to relations for a while, but my Mama failed to get herself a job and everyone grew tired of carrying us, so the last family we stayed with, gave an excuse that they were travelling for a long time and needed to rent the house out. So we had no choice but to find our level. “Where was that exactly?”.

I remember asking my Mama when she mentioned it to me, she looked at me real hard, held me by the arms and squeezed. Then replied, “Mary, I don’t know yet, but God Almighty will guide us.” After that, we wandered around for a few weeks, sleeping in places I can’t bear to mention but eventually, we arrived at the shanty town. There we were given a room in exchange for working like a slave. I went to school, and once I got back, I joined my mama working for free. And so we lived until one day we were rescued. My name is Mary and this is my story.

Big Aunty J, as we called her, was British in every aspect of it. She relocated to England at the young age of 20 with her husband, Uncle James, who was a sailor in her majesty’s British Navy.  Aunty J had 4 children in rapid succession, by the time she was 28 she was done. Two boys and two girls, beautiful, smart and intelligent, they were her pride and joy. Forty-five years later at the age of 65 she was a widow. Uncle J dead, and her lovely children decided it was time for her to come back to Nigeria. She needed the rest, England was a lovely place, but not very friendly to old age. The cold weather, doing things on your own and the loneliness could shorten anyone’s life. So a relocation back home was the solution. To take care of her monthly expenses at home, they acquired a supermarket and a block of 6 flats to rent out. And for her abode, a lovely 5 bedroom fully furnished house in GRA, Lagos. Three vehicles, a Prado jeep, a Corolla and a Mercedes Benz inclusive, all she had to do was move in and decide on her domestic staff.

And so she returned with all the fanfare allowed, with her eldest daughter, Victoria in tow. Food, wine all sorts flowed on that day, but the piece de resistance was on its way. My mum and I had managed to be invited, Aunty J asked that all family members. My mum was her niece, so we got a text from another relation.  Just as the party was winding down, Big Aunty J, stood up to thank everybody for coming and for the warm welcome back home.  Then she called my mum to stand beside her in front of the gathering. “I have decided Mama Mary, my dear niece and her daughter Mary, will move in with me,’’ she said. Cheers of “Yes o!”, “praise God,” rented the air. My mum collapsed into Aunty J’s arms crying. I could not believe we were moving away from the horrible slave life and shanty town to a plush house in GRA, Lagos, with all the affluence we could only have dreamed of. Indeed, our life was about to begin.

That same day we moved into the house. When I say moved, I mean our bodies, we had no possession, so nothing to move except ourselves. In Aunty J’s house, I had my own bedroom and ensuite bathroom for the first time in 6 years, I was 14. Big Aunty J was the best ever, she gave us money to buy clothes, shoes and all, within a month we were unrecognizable. I was enrolled in a posh school and I moved up to the next level and in no time my accent began to change. Mornings, I was driven to school in a Prado jeep and dropped me off at home in the afternoon. Aunty J insisted we go out eating almost every weekend, Sheraton today, Sandton sun the next and so on. We were living the life.

Aunty J’s children were wonderful. They dotted on their mum, and by extension us. Every month a care package arrived from England full of exotic treats, clothes and household needs. Money also came into all our accounts. This was despite Aunty J collecting rent for a 6 apartments and sales from the supermarket. My mother was in charge of all her cash point cards and knew all the pin numbers.  She collected the daily sales from the supermarket and banked it for Aunty J. When a tenant paid. My mum got the bank’s notification on her phone, she practically ran Aunty J ‘s finances. I, on the other hand, lacked for nothing. However, two years later, things changed when I turned 16.

I completed my secondary school, sat for my university exams and aced it. All A’s at O level and high marks for a university. My first choice was medicine. Aunty J was so happy for me, she instantly called her daughter Victoria to arrange a holiday for me in London and to take that opportunity to buy clothes and Co, for University. My mum was happy, but something was biting her, Aunty J and I couldn’t put a finger on it until the day I was due to leave for London. My mum came into the living room where I was waiting with Aunty J, to leave for the airport. She knelt down and said, “Ma, you have been a source of joy for us since we moved in with you, I want to thank you for everything but I would like to ask for something, please allow Mary to stay back in London to do her education”. After that everyone went silent. I looked at my mum and pointed out that Aunty had already paid my fees for university here, I start in September, my mum ignored my comment and kept starring at Aunty J, then Aunty cleared her throat and said “My dear, I understand, Mary will be fine here, she is a bright girl, let her do her first degree here, then for master or specialization she could go abroad”. Just then the gate man came in to inform us the driver was here to take us to the airport.

I left for England without my mama’s hug, she just walked behind us and watched as the car pulled out of the compound, I had a nagging feeling in my tummy that this was not the end of that conversation, but at that minute I could not be bothered. I was off to England and that’s all I cared about, hmm, me? I was so happy.

Arriving at Heathrow airport and going through immigration was a breeze, I had tactically attached myself to the man I sat next to on the plane. Do you know Aunty J got me a business class ticket? I didn’t know what that meant until I got on the plane and saw the smaller seats in economy and my sleeper seats in business class. It was so comfy. The man next to me chatted with me all the way to London. He expressed how lucky I was to be flying for the very first time and get to do it the business way. He told me he didn’t get to sit in business class until he turned 40 and ran his own company. He asked me to be highly grateful for my Aunty that cared so much for me and wanted to give me the best in life’’ Don’t ever take her for granted “ he said.

Aunty Victoria was waiting for me at arrivals, she came with her twins, Timmy and Tammy. They were so happy to see me, the drive back to theirs was so interesting, London was nothing like I had imagined, and the roads were tiny but so clean. The weather was cold, even though Tammy laughed at me when I shivered and said: “Aunty, why are you shivering this is summer”. Their house was a beautiful brick house in a place called Chelsea, rows of houses joined together all looking the same. I got into the house and it was so luxurious. Did I mention Aunty Victoria was married to an investment banker also Nigerian? Uncle Paddy, as we called him. The 6 weeks I spent was an adventure, from Chessington to Thrope Park, Isle of Wight to Portsmouth sailing, back to the lakeside and blue water shopping and Piccadilly to watch shows and finally the famous Oxford street to shop till I dropped. All the places I learnt about for the first time. Then it was time to go back and uncle and Aunty said I could come back any holiday and gave me two thousand pounds, in addition to the 4 suitcases I had full of clothes, shoes and designer bags, what else could a girl need, well I was in for more surprises when I got back home.

For the  flight back, I was more composed, beginning to get the hang of it as they say. This time I sat next to a young girl about my age. She was travelling back with her parents sitting behind us in business class. We hit it off right away and coincidentally, she was already at the university I was going too. She introduced me to her parents, we exchanged numbers and promised to catch up later that week. We had 2 weeks before university resumed. Arriving back, Aunty J and the driver were waiting for me, as I walked out of the terminal, I saw her looking as elegant as ever, I ran into her arms and kissed her. She held me close, then moved me back a bit and looked at me saying, “O my, you look so radiant, England agrees with you”. I thanked her and we walked back to the car. I said she shouldn’t have come, but she said she needed the exercise and besides, she missed me, the house has not been the same since I left, my mama had changed. She guessed she was missing me too.

I didn’t get the welcome back I expected from my Mama, in fact on arrival to the house, Aunty J had to call my mama on the phone because she was nowhere to be found, she told Aunty she had gone to the supermarket. Aunty asked why, when she knew they had gone to pick me at the airport, my mama said she will see me later when she got back. Aunty J took it harder than I did. I knew my Mama, she bottled things up, when she’s upset all you see is the anger and bitterness in her eyes but she won’t tell you. That’s one trait I skipped and am thankful to God. You hurt me, I say it there and then and we are done. That night I went to bed without seeing my mama.

Around 3 am, I felt a hand waking me up, I opened my eyes and it was my mama. The look in her eyes scared me. She looked at me intensely and asked: “Why did you come back”. Well, let me explain that to you. While I was in England my Mama called me almost every day and said I must do everything within my power not to come back, even if I had to run away from Aunty Victoria’s house. She tried to talk me into finding a white guy to sleep with and let him do my papers for me. She pointed out how Aunty J was selfish, all her children were in England enjoying and she doesn’t want me to stay. She can afford to sponsor me to university in England she knew how much Aunty J had in her account etc. But I wasn’t going to do that to Aunty J. Besides, I loved Nigeria, England was too strange, and too cold for me, I had friends and a boy I had my eyes on, I was just getting close to him, I had a great life here, and I wasn’t going to give all that up just to live in England, especially now I knew I could go anytime. My mama shuts me up, “Silly child  you don’t know anything, what an old person sees lying down a child can never see standing up, I know what I am talking about, don’t expect me to be happy you are back, because am not” and she got up from my bed and walked out.

I lay there for a few minutes wondering what her problem was, we had everything we needed her. Aunty J practically let my Mama run her life, what else does she want? Eventually, I dozed off. The next morning Aunty J came to get me, she had a surprise for me. She asked me to close my eyes and walked me down the stairs, once outside she said open your eyes and voila! A lilac mini coupe two doors sat on the driveway with ribbons and congratulations stickers on it. She handed me an envelope and said, “my darling, enjoy.” I didn’t know if I should jump up or summersault. Oh my gosh! This was the best present ever. I hugged Aunty J so tight she almost fell over, then I jumped in the car, opened the envelope and it had Driving lesson vouchers and the car keys.

“Get lessons and you can drive yourself in university.” Aunty was telling me, as I sat there informing her about my new friend I met on the plane. Sola called and asked if I had gotten accommodation. Her flatmate was moving out so I could replace her, she sent me pictures of a nicely furnished two bedroom apartment with ensuites. Aunty J was okay with it, it was 5 minutes’ drive from the campus. But she made me promise to come home once a month. The day came for me to leave for school, Aunty J insisted my Mama come with us, she reluctantly agreed, they helped me settle into the apartment and were happy to leave me in Sola’s capable hands, who was a 3rd-year student of pharmacy. And so campus life began. Hectic but bearable. Kept my promise to be back home once a month.

On one of my visits a few months later, I arrived home and the whole house was quiet, I asked the gateman he said Aunty J was ill, my mum had gone to see her in hospital, how come no one informed me, I dropped my bag, called an Uber taxi and was at the hospital in 15 minutes. O my gosh!, Aunty J looked so ill, she wasn’t breathing properly and had a tube in her nose. For some reason my mama seemed really lively, she hugged and kissed me and asked why I didn’t tell her I was coming. I said hello to her and walked over to Aunty J and kissed her forehead. “What’s wrong with her Mama?” I asked. “The doctors say her liver is failing”, she replied. “Why can’t we fly her abroad, have you told Aunty Victoria?” “There’s no need to bother anyone.”  Was my mama’s response.

I felt it wasn’t right, I should tell Aunty Victoria. So I left, got back home and called Aunty Victoria. Unfortunately, she and the family were in the Caribbean, but she promised to adjust her flight and be with us within the week. By the time Aunty Victoria landed, it was too late, Aunty J died the night before.

I had not felt pain like that ever, I couldn’t sleep, eat or drink, I didn’t even want to go back to school, after her burial Aunty J’s children called my Mama and I to a meeting before they all returned to England. ‘’The decision was unanimous’’ they said, thanked my mama for taking really good care of their mum, we were to take over ownership of the main house, six flats divided, I get 2, my mama 3 and the driver 1 and the supermarket and the money in the account should be shared between my Mama and Me. At last count 76 million Naira was in the account. The lawyer signed everything over and I was told my Mama would have custody of all my share until I turned 25.

Trouble started when I was leaving and I asked for some money, what did my mama say, ”Well, my child, things are going to change around here, am in charge now. So first things first. You are leaving that school and going abroad.”  I was gobsmacked, asked if my mama was joking?  She said no joke, if I refuse she won’t pay my fees, but if I agree, she will pay for me to go. So my choice. I was livid, Aunty J wasn’t even in the grave 2 weeks and my Mama had gone crazy. I said I refused because Aunty J meant so much, she wanted me to complete my first degree here and that’s what I was going to do.

Unknown to my mother Aunty J paid for my fees upfront until the end of my course and my account had money sent to It every month from Aunty Victoria and Uncle paddy, so I didn’t really need her money, though it was my money too. I left the house and went back to campus, my mama threatened that if I leave without obeying her instruction I should not come back to that house. Well, that was fine by me, I was her only child, if I don’t come back, she will surely look for me, or so I thought.

By the end of my second year I hadn’t seen my mama in almost a year, she won’t pick if I call, and when she did, she was like, “what do you want? You disobedient child.’’ And she would drop the phone. So I decided one weekend to go visiting. What I saw, shocked me. First, the new gateman didn’t know me, he insisted on going in to verify if I was welcome. Well, I was, so in I went and my mum and some creepy man were sprawled on Aunty J’s plush sofa. As soon as I got in my Mama asked where I was coming from and what did I want. I said hello to her and ignored the creepy man. He asked my mama if this was the daughter she spoke of and my mama laughed and said yes. My mama looked at me and said “ for your information this is my husband, your stepfather, don’t be rude to him, you understand, now greet him properly” I curtsied and walked out and went to my room.

Surprisingly, as I opened the door to my bedroom, I saw a young man of about 20 lying on my bed. “Who are you and what are you doing in my room?’’ I asked. “Oh, so you are Mary, hello, am your stepbrother chucks’’. Ignoring his greetings, I screamed, “Please get out now.” He got up calmly, and as he walked past, he whispered, “I’m with you on this, I hate this new arrangement. My father left our mum with my two sisters suffering in the village to move in with your mum. So let’s work together to break them up. I’m game if you are.’’ He concluded as he shut my door behind him.

Oh my gosh! The house was upside down, nothing like the lovely home, I remembered, Aunty J would be turning in her grave.

I freshened up, noticed my mum and her creepy man and his son had left the house, so I took the key to Aunty J’’s room and let myself in. My mama had called several times, to ask if I knew where the key was but I said no I didn’t. The room had a bulletproof door and the walls had been reinforced so it would take almost demolishing the upper part of the house to break in, so my Mama didn’t even try. Aunty J’s room was still the way she left it, the wonderful smell of her filled the room, I opened up the wardrobes for airing, then opened others all in the walk-in closet. Just as I was about to leave I heard a beeping sound coming from one of the drawers, I opened it and saw a recorder, traced the loop into another wall unit and saw some video screens, o my gosh the house had closed-circuit cameras and no one knew. I sat down and flashed through it, the rooms, kitchen, garden courtyard, everywhere except the bathroom and toilets had cameras. Then I sat there going through, hours and hours it took me 4 days. Once the people left the house in the morning, I would go back in the room and watch and then on the 5th day something caught my eye and I fainted.

I finally woke up a few hours later, adjusted myself and left the room, that afternoon I left the house before they all came back, this time taking the key to my room and Aunt’s room with me. I didn’t go back home, nor call my mama, she called several times but I didn’t pick up. I was contemplating what to do. After my third year exams, Aunty Victoria wanted me to come to London, the twins were turning 10 and she was having a big party for them. Sola and I decided to go. The holiday was amazing as usual, but the nagging in my heart didn’t allow me to fully enjoy it. I almost told Aunty Victoria what was bugging me, but I stopped myself, there was another way, I knew what I had to do when I got back to Nigeria.

Arriving back 4 weeks later, I went straight to the house, fortunately, my mama was alone. I gave her a list of conditions to conform to or else. She looked at the list and asked if had gone mad. I laughed and told her ‘’Mama, if you don’t comply within a month and gave her a proverb ‘Everyone will find out what we were cooking when the house burnt down’ and I walked out. She screamed my name, called me a fool and that I couldn’t do anything, but I walked away laughing, all I replied was ‘’try me, mama, then you will know am your daughter.’’ The list was simple, 1, get rid of that man you call your husband, 2. Pay all my money into my account, 3. Go back to the village immediately, 4. Sign over the supermarket full ownership to me, you can keep your flats and your share of the money, 5. I give you one month or else. And the note ended.

Two months later, I was asleep alone in our off-campus flat, when I heard a knock on the door. Sola had gone to spend the night with her boyfriend across town. I thought she decided to come back, so I opened the door. The next thing I knew, I was on the floor, something was sprayed in my eyes and I passed out. When I came to, I was tied to a chair in a dark room, wasn’t sure how long I had been there or what time of the day it was.  I tried to speak, but I was too drowsy. I just sat there, shaking and trying to adjust my eyes to the darkness. A few hours later, I heard a key in the door and some voices, 4 men walked in and switched on the light. It took a while for my eyes to adjust to the brightness and then I noticed the room was large, it was a bedroom with a large bed, television and sofa and I was sitting in the middle of the room tired to a chair. Then I looked up again and recognized one of the guys. It was Aunty J’s car mechanic, I remember Aunty was really nice to him and so was I. She paid his children’s school fees and bought him a bus for transportation business. He smiled at me and said, “don’t worry, God loves you so much and your Big Aunty was my guardian angel, I can’t let anything happen to anyone close to her. My guys (pointing to the other three men in the room) were hired to eliminate you, but as God will have it, I was in their house when the call came and a WhatsApp picture of you, I recognized you instantly. And we put a plan in place to kidnap you and warn you. We are not sure who hired us because the message came with an unregistered no and cash was left at a designated area. But not to worry, we are working on finding out who it is, in the meantime, you will stay here and don’t call home or pick up your calls”.

If felt like I was dreaming, did I just hear properly? I was speaking to my hired killers. Who wants me dead and why, was all I could think of. I thanked them profusely as they untied me and asked if I could call my friend Sola. They weighed the option and said only her and no one else. Sola arrived with some clothes for both of us. She decided to stay with me in the house. It belonged to a family friend of the mechanic who had recently relocated to another part of the country.

After a warm shower and a meal, once we were alone, I narrated everything the mechanic told me to Sola, she asked me to request for the no from the mechanic. Her boyfriend worked in one of the telecom companies, he might be able to trace the no’s location. So off we went to see Sola’s boyfriend’s place as soon as we got the no from the mechanic. Surprise, surprise the no pinged off a tower in the centre of Lagos.It was on and had been used in the last few hours. So the arrangement was made and we arrived in Lagos, got a hotel in the centre of town and waited. The mechanic and his boys in tow.

The next morning Sola’s boyfriend confirmed the phone was still on and in the vicinity, so one of the mechanic’s guys dialled the no at first no answer, then he called again. And this time a text came in saying who is this? The mechanic’s guy responded ‘’Sir your no was entered into a lotto windfall and you won 1 million Naira, please come to our office (he gave him the address of the building next door with your id to claim the money’’ The guy called back immediately and asked when? He was told tomorrow morning. The next morning, plain cloth policemen and we waited at the office. I was asked to be in the back with the mechanics’ guys in case the person recognized us. Around 10 am a guy came in to say he was the one who won 1mNaira. The plain cloth policeman at reception ushered him into an inner room, where we all were and he froze. It was the guy I saw in my room, my mum’s husbands son chucks before he could gather himself together a resounding slap landed on his face. He collapsed to the floor and began to confess, ‘’am sorry, it wasn’t me your mother asked me too, she gave me 5m Maira to arrange your death, she said you were not her blood because you threatened her.” Chucks said. He was about to go on when another slap landed and he went mute instantly. I cried and cried, my own mother, how she would want me dead was beside me. The policemen asked chucks were she was and he said in her house with his father.

As I walked into the living room my dear mother got up and fled, shouting ghost! Ghost!! Behind me was Aunty Victoria, who I had called, the police and the mechanic and Sola. A policeman ran after my mother and brought her back with a gun pointed on her. She knelt down and asked for forgiveness, ‘’Why did you want me, dead mama?’’ I asked, what did I do? Mama, why?

“Well my daughter, you were going to expose me that I poisoned your aunty and killed her.’’ My mama said. “What are you talking about, you killed Aunty? I didn’t know that, I only gave you the note because I saw you give your husband a bag full of dollars and I felt you will finish my inheritance before I turn 25. I saw him as a gold digger and was going to get Aunty Victoria to reverse their decision that I get my share by 25. I decided to cover your wasteful habit and terminate it myself, hence the note, I didn’t know you killed Aunty J.” By now, I was crying, Aunty Victoria and Sola too. The police arrested my mother and the rest is history.

Today I sit in the same house Aunty J left us. Managing the supermarket and my other business. While my mother languishes in prison. I can not help but think, if My mother had a spirit of contentment, she could have fought her greed, envy and wickedness. Or if we had remained in the slums, Aunty J would be Alive today and my mum and I would be together. God help me not be like my mother. I pray every day for the spirit of contentment. Despite the fact that my mother controlled everything belonging to  Aunty J had without interference, she still wasnt content and she had topoison her because she wanted more.  That day we moved in with Aunty J, was definitely the beginning of the end for her.

 

 

 

WHO ARE YOU?

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Mark Twain said -The two most important days in your life are the day you were born and the day you find out why.
So I ask you why were you born?
Have you ever thought about it?
Have you ever sat back to think what is my purpose here on earth?
I have often heard it say , that life is like a stage , we are born , play our part and leave the stage.
Now ask yourself. What part are you actually meant to play?
The leader
The teacher
The optimist, The helper, The pessimist, The problem solver
The blessing , The betrayer ,The antagonist, The doubting Thomas
The fair weather friend, The dependent, The independent or
The Me, myself and I
I could go on, asking, who do you think you are

I guess if I am asked the same question, my answer will be the same
I am me, created in God’s image, born to succeed, be blessed at everything I lay my hands on, serve God will all my heart and might, make a difference in this world, fulfill my purpose, love and be loved, be fruitful, be a blessing, let one day not go by without me being a blessing in someone’s life, find favor with God and Man. Let it be said about me when am gone, that I came, I saw and I conquered.
I definitely known who i am.
So I ask again, who are you?

IF ONLY

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What if I had said yes to all the No’s in my life? Where would my path have led?

I can’t help but wonder what my life would be like if I had said yes to every opportunity that came my way. Would I be filled with regret or happiness? If I could go back and change my decisions, would I? These questions lead me to ponder about the course of my life.

Would I still be in the same place, surrounded by the same people, and living the same life I have today? Or would I be on a completely different path, experiencing new things and meeting different individuals? Would I still have my family and loved ones with me? Would I even be alive?

It’s hard to predict how our lives would have turned out if we made different choices. Maybe I would be happier, or maybe I would have missed out on important lessons and experiences that have made me who I am today. Maybe I would be rich, or maybe I would be struggling financially. Success or failure, satisfaction or discontentment, the possibilities are endless.

The word “if” can be overwhelming, and the phrase “if only” can be haunting. It’s impossible to know what could have been, but it’s interesting to reflect on the different paths we could have taken. So, take a moment to think back on the major decisions you’ve made and imagine a life where you said yes to all your No’s. Who knows, you might discover something new about yourself.

I Thank God for Master B..

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Life can be so interesting sometimes. I needed to get my hair done, I was determined to get the right thing done this time, I had tried 4 other salons but each time I wasn’t satisfied with what was done. I was too polite to complain, so I just pay my bill, say thank you and leave. This time I was determined to get it right, I had been driving past this new saloon, it was on the way to my house, but never stopped to see what it looked like on the inside. On one occasion I was late for a meeting so I stopped by to get my nails painted. O don’t ask, I stopped fixing the artificial nails when I got a nasty infection that almost claimed my precious little finger. That was it, I put paid to artificial and embraced the natural, now am rocking it. Anyway I do apologize for the digression, I walked into the salon, got my nails painted, it was a really nice and big salon, I promised myself I will come back.

And so I went to get my hair fixed yesterday, well I know, fixing? Hmmm, that’s still artificial you say, well, but a girl got to keep some artificial , come on, Anyway , as I walked in , this nice young gentleman asked me what I would like to do, I told him to please get me someone who could do hair really well, he smiled got up and said okay. A few minutes later he came back and said, “This way Ma’am”, I followed. He told me to sit down, I asked who was going to fix my hair, he said he was, I looked at him, he looked too, what’s the word am looking for , emmm, too? , well, I don’t know, he just didn’t look like a hair stylist. And so he began, he promised me I won’t be disappointed.

As I watched him work he took his time, he was sooo meticulous, washed my hair 4 times, rinsed it 3 times , dried it slowly, then blew dry, he matted the hair, it took longer than usual but he finally got there, as he did this we talked, his English was very eloquent, the way he strung his tenses together was great. Anyway he started to fix the weave on and at every point he would stop to measure my head I guess, but the end result was perfect. I finally found the one for my hair, I looked amazing.

Anyway when I found out he was an undergraduate, I was surprised, I asked him why hair making, he laughed and said “I don’t know why am telling you this Ma, I don’t think I have ever told anyone before, but an old woman met me once and asked me not to rely on my academic qualification but to do something practical with my hands that will bring in money for me, 5 years later I took her advice, went to learn how to fix hair. I left my first job, cos I had to go to university in another part of the country. One day I got a call from the owner of this saloon, he said he had been to my old salon looking for stylist cos it was said to be the best in that city, an ex-colleague of mine had given him my no saying I live in his city and am really good, and so he called me, that’s how it all began, he hired me”
Master B, now works in the salon catering for the VIP clients.
He’s also working his way through University in his 3rd year , always has enough money and more to give, God Almighty brought help right to his door step because he is diligent. Proverbs 22v29, says “do you see someone skilled in their work? They will serve before kings, they will not serve before officials of low rank.”
Today you too can make a decision, not to wait around for someone else to feed you, think of what you like doing, go learn how to become an expert in it, then start , God will definitely bless the work of your hands. Happy Sunday……

My Mourning turned to Dancing

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Struggling every day, waking up to uncertainties, I walked for 10minutes to the bus stop, I had a car but couldn’t afford to buy petrol in it, had to wake up early, my new job, an office assistant, posh name for office errand boy, demanded that I get to work at 7.30am to clean the office before all the other staff arrive for 9am.
It took me 4 years to get this new job, I used to work as an assistant manager for a manufacturing company, I saved enough to get a car and rent a 2 bed flat. Just as things were looking up the company went bust and we were all laid off without gratuity. I pounded the streets for 4 years looking for a job of the same position or similar, finally I left my credentials at home and took this office assistant job, my pay was 80% less than before, but I was desperate. I had to move into a single room, with shared facilities. I tried my hands at cabbing but couldn’t get enough money to register officially. I got stopped by road officials a couple of times and all I made was taken. That put paid to my cabbing saga.
Frustrated, hopeless and feeling sorry for myself, I sit on my own at break time, cursing the day I was born, me a business admin graduate reduced to an office errand boy, I know where my mates are, how much they earn, why is my life like this, no one to help me, no one who cares, my longtime girlfriend left me after a year of losing my job, the poverty was too much for her.
One day I was on my lunch break, I walked towards the broken fence I usually sat on to feel sorry for myself, I saw that someone else was already sitting on the fence. I intended to walk past her without saying a word, but just as I got in front of her she called my name , ‘’Mr. Tami, good afternoon’, ‘ I was shocked how did she know my name. Her next comment threw me completely off balance ‘’ God loves you, you know? , please come sit down with me I have something to tell you’’.
Rukky, that was her name, moved over a bit and beckoned for me to sit next to her, I did, and she opened her journal and began to read to me. She was gang raped when she was in university, she had to leave in her 3rd year because of the shame and humiliation and hurt she felt, this drove her to attempt to commit suicide, she had parked her car on the bridge and jumped into the lagoon, as God will have it , some fishermen saw her and immediately dived in to rescue her, they took her to their huts nursed her until she was conscious but unfortunately she had amnesia, could not remember her name, where she was from , or anything beyond that day she woke up from the coma.
The fishermen couldn’t take care of her so they took her to the local pastor and his wife, who were delighted to take care of her, she lived with them for 2 years, studying the word of God becoming a prayer warrior and the head of the choir, and one morning she woke up and remembered everything. The pastor and his wife had named her Favor, but she remembered her name was Rukky, her father was a high court judge and her mum was a business woman, she had 2 younger siblings and she also remembered her address. The pastor and his wife had taken her home and the reunion was amazing, but Rukky had changed she was no longer the selfish brat who had jumped into the Lagoon, she was now a holy spirit filled, child of God, anointed to do miracles and safe lives.

From that day she had set up a foundation, giving hope to the hopeless, changing lives to the glory of God one day at a time. ‘’Mr. Tami, God is asking you to join me, he needs us, we are destined to bring his gospel to the world, I have been struggling with this revelation for a long time , didn’t know how to tell you, but God asked me to go sit on your wall, and talk to you, He says, He loves you, he has not forgotten you, he brought you here for a purpose and that purpose is meeting me , I am your wife he has ordained for you’’. Tami looked at her, she was one of the most beautiful women he had seen, and her shoes alone could buy everything he had on four time over. ‘’Are your sure you saw me, he asked, I am the office assistant not the manager?’’ Rukky smiled gave him a hug and said ’’come with me, GOD looks at the heart not the outward appearance 1 Sam 16v7…’’
Today Rucky and Tami are pastors of one of the largest churches in their country. God has saved and transformed countless lives through their testimonies and work for God.
You might be going through a situation you think is hopeless, no job, no money, no one to help you, but you have forgotten that God Almighty will always be there for you.
The bible says in Isaiah 41 verse 10 to 12 – ‘’’do not be afraid because I am with you, do not be dismayed because I am your God, you will be strengthened because I will help you, I will lift your with my right hand of righteousness. ‘’.
So go on your knees, call on to the lord .john 13 v 14 says ‘’ I will do ’what so ever you ask in my name…….’’’ trust in God , only God does not disappoint and he will turn your mourning into dancing, in the mighty name of Jesus.

Good morning……

I AM RICH

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How do I make money daily ? A question most ask themselves everyday. Daily income is one of the most essential ways of getting rich, at this time .Looking at the various possibilities available to earn a daily income , most of us think the jobs or services that can be provided are beneath us. But what you don’t realise is that those seemingly beneath you jobs have the potential to earn you millions and make you mega rich .

Let’s have a look at what potentials and competences you have –

We all have 3 areas of competence , most of us have neglected 2 of them which equally have the potential to earn you an income.

First area of competence – what you read in school , You go to school ,graduate , you write your cv , go out and get a job, that earns you an income .

Second area of competence – Your parents trade or business
For example , Your dad is a Taylor , he makes local suits , you could take on the tailoring service , ride on the clients and reputation he has built over the years , put on your Modern touch , revamp it and bring it into the 21st century , that earns you an income.

Third area of competence – Your God-given talent .
You naturally are a talented photographer . You get a small camera , become an official photographer. Before you know it you will be hired to cover events and that also earns you an income.

Starting a small-scale business , doesn’t always need the Huge amount of money you think.

What do people need, what services do they want? All you need to do Is give them .

A friend of mine saw that parents didn’t have time to take their children on holiday , so she started offering the service of taking the children with chairpersons . She didn’t need any money to start , parents paid her to take their children , today she travels with schools , families , 3 times a year.

A graduate of 3 years who couldn’t get a job, noticed that most of the children in her estate had untidy hair , on Monday as they went to school. She went on a 3 months course to learn how to weave hair . Spent a little money on leaflets , informing neighbours that she could give a home service to weave CHILDREN’S hair over the weekend , gradually she started to weave hair from Friday evening , all through Saturday and Sunday evening . Today she employs 10 girls and has a staff bus to drop them off , every weekend to give the home service.

Another graduate could cut hair , he started by cutting his co tenants hair for half the price other professional barbers charged , all he had was 1 clipper, a water proof body cover and a hand-held mirror. Today he has 4 barbering saloons.

A law graduate took on her mothers trade of cooking. Her mum had a small Buka , where she sold yam flour . It was run down , but a lot of people came to buy it as a take away meal. After 4 years of looking for a job in a law firm with no success , she finally decided to work with her mum. Today , it’s a full-fledged posh BUKA , with a sit down area and a separate take away area. She’s built her own house and opened 3 more yam flour bukas, within a short time.

Kola a Bsc holder, a football fan to the core, noticed that when a football match was played , people gathered at neighbours Windows to watch the match . He decided to open up the backyard of their bungalow as a viewing centre , he took the family television and got some benches from a school nearby put it in the backyard and charged a small fee. He then had them come evenings showing movies when there was no football match . Soon they started requesting for drinks and light snacks etc. Today he has a large bar / viewing centre , which earns him a tidy some of money every weekend.

Tony,a business admin graduate , drove to work from the mainland to the island alone, he struggled to pay for a lot of his bills, his salary as an office manager , was hardly enough. One day he gave a colleague a lift , the colleague offered to pay for petrol if Tony could give him a ride everyday . Soon he had 3 others he picked and he charged the same as the normal commercial drivers , even though his car was nicer and had air conditioning . Today he has two other cars that offer the same comfortable luxury commute to and from work for people who don’t want to drive but want the comfort and convince of a door to door service .

You can also find a service to give which will bring in daily income , it might start being very little , but remember , little drops of water , make a mighty ocean.

God bless you as you decide to get up from where you are and stop feeling sorry for your self or depending on someone to feed you , God has given you all that you need to succeed , he has opened the door for you and all he needs you to do , IS TO WALK THROUGH IT AND GET RICH.

If you would like advice on what you can do with your talent or parents trade , please send us a message and we love to give our little advice to set you on your way.

THE DOVES.

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A story of an over-pampered child….

My name is Wonu, and this is my story.

I got admission into university at the age of 16, my parents were ecstatic. I had the sort of parents who boasted about their child’s success at every given opportunity. I can’t recollect how many times my mum had embarrassed me in public, ‘’ O THIS IS MY DAUGHTER Wonu, she’s only 16 and she just got admission in to the top university to study law……’’ and so she would go on. I soon got used to it.
The day of resumption came, I was ready to leave home, because my mum and dad stifled me. I was the first-born of 3 children and the only girl. My Daddy doted on me and my mum was over protective, I had a driver and car take me everywhere , wasn’t allowed to go anywhere on my own , not even the saloon , to get my hair done, I couldn’t cook , didn’t do any chores around the house , we had maids for everything. Cleaning, tidying, looking after us the children, cooks and gardeners. We were the definition of over pampered.

On my first day at university, I was so happy, I was assigned to a first floor room and my roommate was a girl about 18. She had just been sent back from England to study Business administration, after completing her A/L’s, her parents wanted her to get the African culture in her system. So she told me.
We hit if off right away, we had similar designer clothes and shoes and we both came from money. We had visited most of the same countries and spoke a bit of French, we were a perfect match.

Yemi and I quickly became the belles of the ball, we had so many boys ask us out in our first 2 weeks at Uni, that we started to get so full of ourselves. We would get back to the hostel and compare notes, laugh over love text sent to our phones and What’s App messages.
One evening Yemi and I had just come back from having dinner at one of the many cafes around campus,  when 4 girls walked into our room, they were much older than us, dressed for a party, in sexy white outfits, all very beautiful. They sat us down and introduced themselves as the DOVES.
‘’We have been watching you this past few weeks and we like you, we want you to join our club, we are the ‘happening babes’ on campus, the only relevant ladies on campus belong to our group, you can’t ask to join, we have to invite you’’ one of them said.
Yemi and I looked at each other and all we heard was happening babes, we jumped up and said yes please at the same time. The ladies were delighted, they hugged us and asked us to come along to the party they were going too.

We got ready, got into one of the very nice cars, they each had one, and we drove to a large house. When we got there, the house was full of women, dancing drinking and having fun. We were excited, it seemed like the place to be, we immediately joined in the fun.
The last thing I remembered was taking a punch drink from one of the ladies, when I woke up the next morning I was in a bedroom stack naked, with blood stains all over my legs and my private part was so sore I couldn’t move. It took me a few seconds to realize what had happened to me, raped and no longer a virgin, I became hysterical, I passed out. When I woke up again, I was laying on my dorm bed, with a note next to me. It read ‘’Welcome to the DOVES, you passed your initiation, the price of joining was losing your virginity. We will be in touch, you have been sworn to secrecy, if you tell anyone about this, you will die.’’. At the moment I heard a mourn from across the room, I looked up and saw Yemi, she told me she had gone through the same ordeal, we hauled together and cried our eyes out.

We couldn’t eat, go for lectures, so scared, we didn’t know what to do, and we couldn’t talk to anyone about our experience, cos we were afraid to die. The next morning, two of the women came for us and said the Leader wanted to see us, ‘Dove , most senior’ she was called. When we got to her house, just outside the campus gates, she handed over a car key each to Yemi and I. ‘Doves fly and are dignified, from now you ride around campus like a dove, you don’t have to take your cars home if you are afraid, just come park it here , then pick it up when you come back to campus. She then handed us keys to an apartment, ‘Dove in waiting’, her assistant, will take you to your new furnished apartment. Go pack your things, Doves don’t live in cages, lastly she handed us a white bag as well and asked us to open it once we got back to the dorm.

Yemi and I could drive, my driver had given me driving lessons since I was 13, and he even allowed me to drive occasionally. Yemi had a car she took to school in London, so we fitted into our new status easily. We drove back to the dorm, with ‘dove in waiting’, hurriedly packed our things into the new cars and drove to our new apartment.

Once we had settled down, we opened up the white bags, it had the following items, A Rolex watch, with our initials engraved on the back, a credit card, which had a note attached from the bank saying we had a permanent credit limit of $5000, a gold-plated cell phone with some no’s programmed in them, no names just initials ( we were later to find out they belonged to some of the most powerful men in the country)and some jewelry and perfumes. We sat their mouths agape, wondering what was going on. Little did we know our life was about to change forever.

The apartment was lovely, 2 bedrooms, fully furnished and a chef that came 7am in the morning and left at 8pm. We settled in, had a well prepared dinner and went to bed. At 5 am the phones we were given rang twice, a text came is summoning us to the Dove most seniors house. We got dressed and drove in Yemi car. On arrival we were ushered into two different bedrooms, we were to start our training, what training I wondered. By the time we were done 4 weeks later we were well-trained in the art of KAMASUTRA.
Within days we were whisked away to the capital, taken to one of the most luxurious home i had ever been in, it was so big , it must have had 20 bedrooms , it had an Olympic size pool, 3 guest chalets and a lawn tennis court. , I had seen big houses, but this was big. , Yemi and I joined a group of 8 other girls as young as we were all looking around nervously.
After about an hour, they urshered us into a large dining room, with a 24 seats dining table .the table was already occupied by some men, about 10 of them. It took a while for my eyes to adjust to the room, just then I let out a whimper, I could see some of the most powerful men sitting around the table. I recognized a few of them from the news and national daily’s. I could not believe we were in the same room as these powerful people.

They must have sensed our nervousness, they all got up and walked towards one of us and led us to the dining table, I was sited next to one of the no 1 men, of a state. Dinner went well, we had a choice of more than 20 dishes, and it got to a stage where none of us girls could take another bite. My date talked to me, whispered into my ears and I laughed. He was older than my father, my mind could not comprehend me sitting at the table with all this powerful men, and to have one of them doting on me, was mind-boggling.

After dinner, we all went to sit around the pool, there was grilled fish, chicken, mutton and prawns for anyone who was interested, the men seemed to have an insatiable appetite, they kept eating. One by one the pool area thinned out, until my date and I were the only ones left. He asked if I would like to go sightseeing with him, I said yes.

Forty minutes later we were in his private jet flying to his state, we were picked up at the airport by his convoy and taken to a private guest house. To cut the long story short, that night I got to practice all my Kamasutra training for real. In the morning, we were served breakfast in bed, he gave me an envelope asked me to promise I won’t open it until I got to the capital. He kissed me passionately, said he would call me back soon. I was whisked to the private jet, flown back to the capital, driven back to the house, where everyone else was just waking up. Opened the envelope it had $25,000 in $100 dollar bills, I threw it up in the air, started laughing uncontrollably. I now realized we were sex toys to the rich and powerful and so my journey as a KAMASUTRA BABE BEGAN.

Back on campus, Yemi told me she had a similar experience without the PJ, she was given $20,000, we had so much money we didn’t know what to do with it, we still didn’t understand how this will play out in the end. All through my 4 years on campus, I attended a party like that every month, sometimes we were whisked outside the country or onto a yacht, for a long weekend.
All through this my parents didn’t suspect a thing. I had told them Yemi’s parents got her the apartment and they asked me to live with her, cos they didn’t want to live alone, they also got her a car. She told her parents the same thing that my parents got the apartment and the car.
As for the money it was in bank accounts we had opened on our own, our parents didn’t know anything about them. We hardly went to class to write exams, but we passed all our courses with distinction.
At the end of 4 yeas Yemi and I had a first class we hadn’t worked for, we know we got it through our powerful connections. We were both posted to the capital, where THE HOUSE was waiting for us. We practically did out youth service in the house and at the end got our passing out certificates.

Today my life is ruined, I can’t get a boyfriend, I am 5’8, drop dead gorgeous, but somehow men seem to dispose me. Once we turned 21, we were sent forth from the house, given a Hugh sum of money to move on with life and given a brand new jeep of our choice. I got a range rover, bought an apartment and got myself a boutique. 5 years down the line, no man has asked me out. When I got so worried, I went to see an aunt of mine, and she took me to her imam. He prayed for me and said, I had lived a bad life, that all my glory had been used by men who were very powerful, I was a working shell, empty. It would take the grace of God to restore me back, my womb was compromised , my health, my life,
I have all the money I can spend, no husband, no child, no happiness. My parents have no clue, I do not even practice Law, even though I have a first class. I hardly went for lectures. I couldn’t even tell you what constitution applied to anything .
I wasted my life, got led astray. I thought life was all about freedom, money, fame and partying. However, there is a silver lining, I decided to try to redeem myslef, by givivg my life to Christ. I have been a church worker for a while I teach and counsel young girls about the dangers out there and I believe my life has found a new meaning.
I know God Almighty will surely restore me back fully.
Dear Parents, please get more involved in your children’s life, talk to them about sex education and the realities of life, dont give them everything they want even if you can afford it. Make sure you ask questions, encourage them to talk to you, speak to their lectures in University, visit unexpectedly, above all lead your children to God, be more involved in their lives, Lack of money didn’t get me here, being over pampered did.
Thank you for reading my story, I pray it ministers to someone.

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