Dearie,
Once upon a time, I let other people determine my happiness. I did all I could to make sure no one was upset with me. I bent over backwards to make people love me. I was the quiet one, the one who hardly ever got upset, the one who was always there for everyone.
I was the one who would volunteer to help, run errands. I was the one who would give all I had, even if it meant going hungry. I was the one who would give a friend my best dress and wear anything, just to make them like me. I was the one who would step aside for a guy I liked, just because my friend said she liked him too – even though I saw him first.
I always put myself in compromising positions, thinking of others before myself, putting their welfare, needs, and wants above mine.
I was the first to apologise, even when someone else hurt me. I was the one who got left behind, the one who would get down from a car and walk, just to make room for someone else.
I did all this just to make people grow fond of me.
But you know what? I learnt the hard way.
No matter how much you do – and trust me, I did everything short of killing myself –
somebody, somewhere, will still not like you.
They will hate you, speak badly about you behind your back, pretend, mock, and humiliate you over and over again.
So, the sooner you get on with your life, the better.
Live life for you, not for others.
Don’t let them take advantage of you. Do what you can and leave the rest.
Create boundaries for yourself.
Ask God for wisdom, and then sit back and see how He will turn your life around.
Relationships should not be one-sided.
It takes two to tango.
Give and take, they say.
Make a choice today: become the person God created you to be –
not the person others want you to be.
God bless you as you make this decision.
Welcome to the best days of the rest of your life.
JUST BE.
Love,
She Heals
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